Regrets Revisited

I have been reading the replies on the thread post and it really struck me how we on the Delaware board are really a microcosm of the complete WLS surgical experience. I feel terrible for those who have had a disappointing experience but admire them for plugging away and not giving up. Tammy's reply struck a chord with me. I guess I really wasn't really considering other forms of regret that I may have. I was leaning more toward the overall experience. I have been very fortunate and it has been a fabulous one for me, but something Tammy said applies to me also. On some level I really do wish I had been able to do it on my own. I'm a very ' do it myself ' kind of person, and this is the one thing I couldn't accomplish on my own, and not for lack of effort. I'm one of those people who has to be in complete control of myself at all times, and I especially like to be able to call the shots where my body is concerned. I could'nt do it this time and had to ask for help. But in the asking for help it occured to me that I really was calling the shots and steering my own destiny. None of us can ever know the outcome of anything, all of life is a crap shoot at times, but we can take a calculated risk. So, I guess in a way I do have a regret. In a perfect world I'd have gotten a handle on this weight problem myself, solved it and moved on. I wish I could have done it that way, but in a roundabout way, I guess I did just that. Ok, off to put on some PJ's and over analyze other issues in my life Linda

Hi Linda, Very well said! Angie

Linda, You hit the nail "right" on the head. Very powerful words. Thanks Julie

I know what you mean. I`m the same way, I always want to be in control,therefor I was very stressed about having the surgery.I also fell like I have failed , because I can`t do the weight loss thing on my own. IT is taking me time to come to terms with the idea of having the surgery. I know there are people in my family who think I shouldn`t do it , because of the safety factor. Also I know that they think I need to have self control and exercise is the answer to everything. I have just had a flair up of fibromyalgia, and it is a bad one. I know that exercise is wonderful for it, but when it is truly this bad i`m unable to exercise, and my sister thinks i`m just a slacker. Enough venting. Again I thought I was a failure when I finally decided to have the surgery.