I need to vent.....

I posted a note last week about my mom not being supportive. Well, last night I called her to discuss my wls day and helping me out with my son (My siblings live down south and cant make it up). She told me that she might go to her high school reunion around that same and wanted me to postpone my surgery for the summertime. Now let me just give you a little background about my mom. She is very controlling and to this day, tries to display that on all of us. She has never been supportive in my life and always have negative things to say thinking she is being supportive. (She wonder why I am depressed, overweight and dont communicate). Anyway, I am the only child out of 6 kids that holds my ground and dont let her have it her way. So, I politely told her that is she can't help me out the before the surgery and after, that I will make my own arrangements for me and my son (which she does not like anyone else keeping him) and that I am not changing my date. Well, I will not let this discourage me from gaining a healthy life and doing what is right for me here. Thanks for letting me vent here.

Lysa, You are my hero! I have the hardest time just telling people no..and thats one thing I've been trying to work on this year! So, you did a great job! We all know how difficult it is just to get that "surgery date"..and so much has been invested in this by you..all the appointsments, clearances etc. I wish I was still up there..I would help you out! Do you have some close friends that can be there for you and your son? How old is your son? I'll pray that your mom forgets about her pride and does the right thing and support you..whether or not she agrees with the surgery..she should be there for you. Hugs to you! Kimberly

Thank you Kim, for being supportive. My son is 6 yrs old. I just started standing my grounds here since 2002 and have learned coping skills along the way to survive any situation. I too used to have a very hard time saying "no" but then I realize I needed to "DO ME". I have come through the valleys of many storms and I know that by faith, I'll get through this one. Thanks

Ms. Lysa, congratulations!! It sounds like you are taking control of your life in more ways than one, and it gets easier the more you do it. It also starts to FEEL right. She may change and she may not, but you are on the right track now that you are doing what is good for you and your son!! Good luck and my prayers are with you! Hugs, Bertie

Hi Lysa, I feel for you! I was fortunate enough to have the support from my family although knew they were not 100% for it but they all knew I tried everything else. I am willing to volunteer my help for you and your son. I live in Newark and babysit a lot during the day right now. I am available. If you need a ride to the hospital or doctors or need someone to tend to your son I will be more then willing to help. I can give you the number or email address to some parents I babysit for from time to time if you wish to check up on me. Feel free to call me at 286-6454. I would be more then happy to help you Hope

Thank you sooooo much Hope. I really appreciate your support and I have your number. Let me know when it's a good time to call.

Hi Lysa, Congratulations to you for sticking to your guns and doing the best thing for you and your son. Keep your focus and welcome to your new healthier life! Linda

Congratulations to sticking to your guns! I've always had a difficult relationship with my father. When I decided to do this - he never said anything to me - support or otherwise. Thank God my mom was there - and I would be okay if she couldn't cause she is elderly and doesn't drive. But she stayed in the hospital with me. My dad didn't visit but that's okay I was doing this for ME. However, while recovery and subsequently living a healthier lifestyle - he has changed completely. He is now suppportive and always making sure I exercise - etc. I pray that once you've done what you need to do despite your mom's objections..she will she you in a new light - and have a change of heart after your recover - like my DAd did. My thoughts are with you!

Thank you Ruth..... I am hoping my Mom will come around also