need help !!!

Good Morning everyone, well here is my thing I have no engry I am sooooooo tried and just over all feel bad my tummy burns all the time which suck and that does not help the feel bad part. I thought I would be up and going good by now and I am not I mean I am 11 days out I should be feeling better right? I need help!!!!

Hi Mel, I'm sorry you're not feeling so great right now. I know it takes longer to feel better after having an open surgery, I've had 2 c-sections and an appendectomy, the appendix was back in the bad ole' days where you had to stay in the hospital for a week! lol. It is probably frustrating to compare to many of us who had a lap procedure and a quicker recovery time. Just have a deep breath, take it one day at a time and give yourself time to heal. 11 days is a VERY short time for such a major operation. One question, is the burning tummy an inside thing or more like outer incision pain? If you are having pain when you eat or drink definitely give your surgeon a call to have things checked out. Try to follow your post op diet asd best you can and get those fluids in so you don't dehydrate. Don't forget your vitamins. I'm sure with a bit of rest and getting into a routine, you will feel better than new in no time. Once again tho, listen to your body and your instincts, if you feel something isn't right follow up on it! Take care and keep updating how you're doing. Linda

it took me a month and a half before i didn't have to take a nap during the day. even at 2 months doing light cleaning around the house would wear me out. the 2 month mark was when i really started feeling normal again. remember you are ONLY 11 days post and your not super woman(yet haha). just take it easy. having surgery is a big shock to our system. it can even cause depression. the first 5 months after surgery i was a wreck. fast weightloss messes with our hormones and gives you the blues. we spend alot of time and energy trying to GET the surgery that we don't know what to do when you have it. it's like "ok what next?". the answer is to heal and get healthy. having open surgery is alot harder to recover from than lap and i'm sure most people who had open will agree they weren't feeling like themselves for a good while. i used my healing time to really reflect on my life and how i wanted it to be. i felt like i wastes so much time feeling bad and standing on the sidelines. i wanted to be part of my family. i never wanted my weight to stop me from doing anything ever again. everyday i still have to remind myself who i am and what i am try to do in life. so far so good. how many times in life is your husband NOT going to complain about you laying around the house lol just relax while you can because pretty soon he'll be chasing you aroung the house.

Good advice, Fran. I'm going to keep it where I can see it since I'm scheduled for an open RNY in ten days. Mel, I hope you're feeling better soon. Diane C.

Hi Mel. I am wondering about where the burning feeling is. Is it inside your tummy or outside incision area? If outside it should go away soon and if inside you should ask your surgeon about that. Does your doctor have you on prilosec or anything like that? I had to take it for the first month and I had no burning. Maybe I wouldn't have had burning anyway..just trying to think of something helpful. Tiredness..boy are you normal feeling tired. It took me so many weeks to feel back to normal. I had my open surgery August 15,2002. It was after January 2003 when I went back to work and then I only worked part time because I wore out quick. I could have gone back sooner but I worked for myself at the time and I didn't have to. I'm really glad that I was able to take the extra time but I know not everyone can. If I would have had to worked I know I could have gone back much sooner then I did but even 6 weeks post op would have been darned hard. I do think that for some reason I recovered much slower then the normal person. Because I was young and generally healthy I expected a quicker recovery. From talking to people I now know some bounce back with amazing speed, some are like I was but most people are somewhere inbetween. I bet in a few more weeks you will notice a huge difference. Just think a year from now you will be posting about your small clothes, your skin issues, how your life has changed. You are on your way to new life girl. Take Fran's advice and use this time to reflect on where you want to be. It's good advice. Carrie