Feeling blue myself

Hello wonderful members. I just finished reading the post from Clint and all the wonderful replies you sent him...It does warm the heart to hear from all you lovely people...I am having the same problem as Clint. I have tried match.com and not having any luck meeting anyone and everyone tells me I am pretty attractive...(I know I need to get my pic posted on this site.) It just gets so darned discouraging when I write to people (I do have my pic on match) and they send back a reply saying they don't think I am a good match for them. I am not desperate by any means but sometimes it just gets a little lonely on weekends and I feel very encouraged by my weight loss and my new life beginning. I guess being shot down so soon does tend to wear me down. But I can't give up and I know I am still changing inside and out for the better. Hang in there Clint, it can only get better from here on. Sorry, just had to get that out of my system... Anne

Wow I had no idea that's how match.com works. You are not only a wonderful person but very brave. I say hang in there. The "REAL" one that is meant for you will turn up as you are least expecting it. Why do we need to be validated by others. Keep posting as I am divorced and about to put myself "out there" at some point. I'm hoping while I am healing and focusing on my family that Mr Wonderful will just knock on my door ... (but then I woke up). Dianne

Hey there Anne- Middletown, and New Castle arent too far away. Maybe you an Clint could hook up, at least cheer each other up? I am the queen of connection in my circle of friends, and I think at the very least you would enjoy each others company. Is there maybe some kind of weight loss singles group out there? Check out the web, you may be pleasantly surprised. Take care, and keep your head up, I dont have to see your pic to see that you are a beautiful person. ((((Hugs)))) Michelle

My Gosh! Michele I was thinking of the same idea.....You took the words right out of my head (lol). Sounds like for staters anyhow they seem to have a couple of things in common.....If nothing else becoming friends to feel the void of emptiest. Hang in there...."The Sun Will Shine Again". Just when you are least expected. I also agree with Dianne, you don't need a mate/others to vaildate who you are. Happiness begins within self first and then passed on to others. Good Luck! Shay a/k/a Snuggles

I knew you guys would make my day....thanks Dianne, MIchelle and Shay...Unfortunately, I don't think Clint would want to hook up with a 50 yr old and I can't date anyone younger than my children...good try guys!! YOu are all so sweet and kind and caring and I know this feeling will pass and great things will happen...I was in a relationship since NOvember with a very nice guy from Dover but he is going through a divorce and not quite ready for any comittment. I can't wait until I can post a really sexy pic and then I will be the heartbreaker...he he!! thanks for all your support.....it is appreciated... Anne

Anne - sorry you are feeling blue too. You have a good attitude about not giving up. I'm sure you'll find someone. I wish I could remnember the other site that is like Match.com but I've heard it is better - for the life of me I can't think of it. Can't wait till you post your beautiful diva picture Amen, it will only get better from here.

Anne, Don't look for love. It'll find you. I was married to Mr. Wrong for 12 lonely years. Single for 12 long years. Married to my Prince for 11 years now. In that single period it gave me a chance to raise my kids, get to know myself and become the person I am today. I wasn't looking for my soulmate, I just wanted to meet a sincere human that wanted to share some fun. We found each other. It's never peaches & creme, but you'll know. Try to stay with the facts and not get emotional. The man of my dreams had to have a few quality's. He had to have a job, a car, & a place of his own. He had to believe in God and had to look at me when he talked to me. You'd be surprised how many do not fit that criteria. I always said I kissed a lot of frogs until I found my prince. Hang in there. Pray for courage. You will succeed. ((HUGS)) Elissa

Hi guys, There is a MSN site "WLS SINGLES".. I'm not sure of the exact title, but I remember reading about it on the main message board. I think it would be a great way to meet people who understand. Besides, what a cheap dinner date you'd be! lol Tina

Hi Tina: thanks so much.....I will check it out. and yes I am a cheap date because the guy I was dating before loved the fact that we could share a meal. Anne

That reminds me - some OH members made a singles board somewhere...not sure if it is here, msn, yahoo... .etc. But if you ask for directions on the main board you should get there quickly enough.