Bad Day!!!!

Im sitting here having a bad day! I thought maybe I could come to the site and hopefully u guys and gals will have some kind words of advice..I know you guys and girls never have let me down so far.... Well here it goes.. Im 27 single and have no prospets for even dating anyone...Why is it so hard to find someone decent...Most women that I am attracted say im cute... but get this too big and chubby...and the girls that are attracted to me are psycotic??? What is wrong with me??? Then the other things is..i look in the mirror and still see this fat person..i see this 380lbs guy...Mentally I know thats not true..my clothes are smaller even the dreaded scale says im smaller..but when I look in the mirror all i see is the hanging skin..and the wrinkles in the skin..Then I get upset at myself for allowing myself to get that heavy...I guess when it rains it pours huh?? Well I hate to use this board to be so negative..because normally I'm not that way...I hope I dont scare u guys/gals...its not normally this bad this far out from surgery...I promise..

Clint, Don't beat up on yourself too much. You have come a long way, and should be proud of your accomplishments. I'm not on your side of the fence yet, but think of how much better off you are now than before. You have even better days coming!!! Ken

Clint Sorry this is happening to you right now. I think that you are a great guy. Maybe you are just trying too hard, and becoming discouraged. I've read that it takes a long time to not see the heavier version of yourself when you look in the mirror. Look at what you have accomplished with your life so far, and at such a young age. I only wish I were as brave or had the opportunity at your age. Don't waste it on people who don't appreciate you for what you are now and were then. And do not feel intimidated by them. Good things happen when we are least likely to expect them. Be good to yourself, you desserve it. But please DO watch out for those psychos. Dianne

Well don't tell my husband but I think you are quite attractive. You have a great smile and a cute grin (2 different things) and your eyes are great too - I guess you could say that you are easy on the eyes so to speak. I am sure that sooner (hopefully) or later you will meet a girl who thinks you are wonderful, period...not to big or too small..she won't see any of that anyway - because she will love you - ALL of you - but most importantly the inside...oh & she'll be single..All us married girls would snatch you up in a heartbeat if we could, you are adorable. Maybe you need to meet people that did not know the "old" Clint? I met my husband online 7+ years ago. I love that we got to know a lot about each other (not enough...lol) before we even met. If I were to find myself single today for some reason - and looking - I would try one of thse sites like match.com. There are a bunch like that. You meet people that have the same interests as you, live in the same area, you email each other to see if there is a conection... etc.... you get the idea probably. Anyway, that is what I'd do. Try not to worry about it much, the right person will come along, your a doll, of course they will. In the meantime, continue to focus your energy on the new person you are evolving into - you will never have this all new rebirth time again. Use any alone time to really look inside yourself, rediscover who you are & who you want to be.... trust me when I say this..in a few short years... married with children... there will be NO alone time Except at 12:47 am... Take care babe

clint, don't think it is because of your looks that your not in a relationship because your a really handsome guy! it's just not time. be glad rather than upset that the women so far have not worked out. they would have just wasted your time. thank them in your head that they have left you open to find someone who will love you for you, all the good AND bad things(mood swings, angry, being grumpy ect..). if someone can love you with the same amount of caring when your having bad days and hard times as they do when your at your best you know something special is there. i was underweight when i met my husband. before i met him i had plenty of dates, but none that made me feel like i had truely connected with someone(ya know what i mean?). when we were dating he made the comment(jokingly) that he was glad i was skinny because he would never marry a fat chick. about 6 months after he said that i started gaining weight out of control. we got married a year later and i was 205 on our wedding day. the second year we were married i had our first baby and gained 40 more pounds....then 2 years later had another baby and gained 50 more. i was sooooooooooooooo depressed because of my weight. i felt like i was in a dark deep pit that i could never get out of. i know that my husband is the person i am MEANT to be with. he stood by me with every struggle and let me know that it was ME he loved not the outside shell. i reminded him about his little joke he said off handed before we were married about never wanting to marry a fat chick...he said that it was really stupid for him to say and that there wasn't anyone else he would rather be with. 2 years ago my weight went up to 350. i was trying to diet soooooooooo hard. like i said before he was by my side cheering me on when i would start a diet and holding me tight when the diet would fail. he even told me that he never wanted me to diet again because of how sad and upset it made me and that he loved me no matter what. when i met my husband i wasn't looking for a relationship. in fact one of my best friends tricked me into meeting him. after i told her that i wasn't interested in getting involed with anyone SHE HAD THE NERVE TO GIVE HIM MY PHONE NUMBER. he called me almost everyday asking me out for 2 weeks. well i'm glad he wore me down and i finally said yes. we have now been married 12 years with 2 beautiful girls. i think that when the time is right love will find you. in the meantime just think as dating as practice for the real thing. you will know when you find the real thing.....it hits you in such a way that there is no mistaking it for anything else.

Hi Clint, I am so sorry to hear you had such a bad day! You are very "cute" and if I weren't married...well..... Looks should not be everything in a relationship but I know with most people it seems to be just that way. They always say the right one comes along when you are not looking for it. Hey, I have some friends I can introduce you too :wink: Let's see you cheer up!! Think of all the good things in life! I'm sure a great woman will be along shortly! Hope

Would you like to meet my daughter! She's 26 and . . . well, you do have a problem. Her time is devoted to the four-legged variety -- aka horses. She's building an equestrian businesses and seems to have little time for anything else. Sigh -- maybe next year. Her size? Maybe a 4 or 6. We won't go there either. A couple guys that were interested in her didn't meet her criteria. Men without focus had no appeal to her. I am confident that someone will come along and sweep her off her feet. That's what happened to me. For what it's worth, I'd given up on men by the time I was 26. I decided that I would never get married and never have children. I was in the Air Force (acft mx officer) and figured I'd just have fun and not worry about it. Then I met this blue-eyed, dark-haired silent type. The moment I saw him, I knew. We were married 65 days later (more than half the time he was grounded in the Philippines because of the C-5 crash in Saigon). My husband and I have been married for 28 years now. My mother told me it would happen that way. And it did. I just knew. You can't define it and you can't package it. You just know. Size doesn't have anything to do with the "knowing." It's something bigger, broader, better than external attraction. I can say without reservation that it waiting for the "knowing" moment was well worth it. Diane C.

Clint, Cheer up! There are girls out there. But BOY OH BOY are there ALOT of crazy girls out there! Just the other day my husband and I were talking about some of the shows we were watching on tv and some of the stories we hear about these women that seem to have no scruples left at all. Just completely materialistic and vapant. Sorry, but I asked my husband "what the heck is wrong with these women today?" He said even when he goes out with his buddies at the bar the girls are just looney! Be patient it takes time to weed out the psychos! And boy...are there alot! I havent had my surgery yet...soon, but I am scared as well about the skin. Eventually I will find a way to surgically get that taken care of "can we say extreme makeover?" although I dont think I would have the guts to do it, its national tv after all!! Give yourself some time. Its a big adjustment you are going through. Love yourself before anyone else. You come first. Then if they are smart enough, (key phrase there because there are alot of loonies) they will see the great person that you are! Best of Luck Elizabeth M

Clint, You have been very sucessful at this new life style. Get to know yourself. Write down some key points that you'd like in a lady. If the shoe doesn't fit, don't buy it. Stay away from physco's. Take time to get to know the ladies that meet your criteria. Don't waste time on the rest. Relax. You'll find Mrs. Wright someday. Good luck. ((HUGS)) Elissa

Good morning, Clint.... You've come to the right place, hon!!! (But then, u already knew THAT, didn'tcha?!) lol Hang in there, sweetie! Like all the others said (and so well), the right person will come along...when u'r not even looking!! Until then, take care of u'rself and enjoy u'r accomplishments!! (((hugs))) -Karen