Feeling down

Hi, guys... Sorry I haven't been active on the board lately... I'm kinda in a slump right now. My son left yesterday to go back to his dad's in Houston and I go into his empty room and just cry. His 'signature' is all gone...skate magazines, skateboard, shoes, clothes, etc. It's back to being an empty room and it hurts. I step on the scale and it says the same damn thing it said a week ago (236) so I'm in a slump about that, too. Going back to work Monday and that's got me down. I really liked being home for two months (well, ya who wouldn't). It's the first time (and probably last) that I've ever had that kind of paid time off. Plus I'm quarreling with hubby... Took a hot bath to feel better and now I feel lathargic. What the hell is going on here? I'm looking forward to Saturday when I can be with my AMOS buddies and get some cheering up! (((hugs))) -Karen

Hi Karen, When it rains it pours! Coming down off the holidays is hard under the very best of cir****tances let alone still being in the recovery process from a major surgery. I can tell how much you really miss your son, however try and think ahead to how much better and healthier and skinnier you will be next time you see him! Work is work and will probably always suck so I have no words of wisdom for that! lol other than each day will get better and easier once you get back into the routine. Not sure what kind of job you have but how about spending some time this weekend choosing an outfit to wear that really makes you feel good! Feeling lethargic is probably your body's way of forcing you to rest and let go of the stress a bit. Go curl up and have a nap, or read a good book or watch a movie. All your buddies will be there with bells on to cheer you up tomorrow. Remember, no matter how icky things get, you always have people in this world who understand. Extra hugs for you ((( Karen))) Linda Oh btw, I posted on the other board suggesting a chat for this evening, hope everyone can come!

your going thur alot right now.....hoidays, son visiting, healing, preparing to go back to work, and hormones out of wack causeing you to feel down because of this surgery and fighting with your hubby. can you say "BIG TIME STRESS!!" hahaha when you start work and get back to a normal routine it should help some. and i bet your son is gonna be so proud of his mom when he sees you again!!! it took me 2 months after wls to stop crying every time i saw a cheesey commercial on tv haha and i not a crybaby. i kind of made up this thing i do for myself when i feel stressed and depressed. I MAKE IT ALL ABOUT ME!!! FOR ME!!! BY ME!!!! HAHAHA i get in a hot tub with some nice smelling bubble bath, light some candles and get a good book and stay in about 1 1/2 hours. i do it at night after everyone is gone to bed so i know i won't hear knocking on the door. my family does not understand the word relax! haha. if i don't have a good book , i just lay back and think about all the good things in my life and things that i am looking forward to doing. things will get better. just remember things in your life right now aren't like they were pre-op. i don't mean the normal everyday stuff, but i mean it is hard to get thur the everyday stuff when you are dealing with alot of emotional things realated to wls. before wls you just can't wait to have it done....after wls you are having to deal with the issues that caused you to gain in the first place. those issues are there for all of us even if they are pushed aside in the backs of our minds. just try not to make any new stresses for yourself by getting upset so much. when you feel like you are going to explode because your upset first think....is what i am about to get mad about going to matter an hour, week, month or year from now. that was something that was hard for me to learn, but it was the best thing i have ever done for myself and my poor hubby hahahahhahaha. because if i got mad at him or the kids for ever little thing that would mean i would spend more time being upset instead of happy. BUT!!! a good arguement every now and then is just PLAIN FUN HAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHA

Karen, I think what everyone above are wonderful words of wisdom. Hang in there. You have been doing terrific. I can relate to missing your son. My boys are my life and I miss them terribly when they are only gone a weekend. Do something special for yourself and take care ps.. this is personal, but how come you are off work so long? I thought I'd be out 2-3 weeks. I'd appreciate your input. Thanks. Tina

Sending you a big ol' ((((HUG)))) I have been having an emotional day myself - crying at the drop of a hat, so needless to say, your post made me cry. I'm going to take a cue from you and take a nice long bath. You have done great in 2 months, I'm sure your body is just trying to catch up with your scale - (note * please save - I'm sure that in 2 mnths I'll be saying the same thing):rofl I'll try and check in again later for the chat. I'm looking forward to seeing everyone tomorrow. (((((HUGS))))))

You guys are too much. I feel so bad for you. Gosh, I know how I feel about my kids and grandkids. I love having them live so close. They only live a few miles away. I hate it when the house is quiet after they leave. But I get them often, especially now that I'm retired. I know that after the surgery I'll give myself 2/3 months then I'm gonna have to get out and get my butt in gear and start looking for another job. I'm too young to be home. My severence will last until July. Besides My hubby is retired and theres not enough room in this house for the 2 of us 24/7. So I am glad that I have Saturday to look forward to so we can all smile and laugh for a little while. See you all tommorrow. ((HUGS)) EH

OMG, now I'm really bawling!! But for good reasons now...You guys all have touched my heart so much. I really needed a shoulder today and you gave me many!! I guess emotionally I AM going thru a lot...I never saw it the way you all spelled it out. But you're right! It's a lot of stressful things all at once. And I guess it's OK to be a little sad, too. Carla, I'm sorry if I made YOU cry! (big hug!) Oh, Tina, to answer your question, I had 8 wks paid medical benefits, but, as you can guess, they are now over. I know I should be grateful that I even had that. It was just a waaaahhh moment (well, a waaahhhh day, actually). I just came back from Curves (3X this week...pat, pat) and I DO feel better. I also noticed that they have this cool protein shaker there for $4. Might treat myself next time and get one. I'm looking forward to our time tomorrow...'cause in Fran's words...it's ALL ABOUT ME for a couple of hours!! Thanks, guys!! (((BIG HUGS))) -Karen

ok group, time to cheer up Karen. group hugs tomorrow. I'm very happy to have met you Karen. I think you're a great person and hope your feeling better soon.

Awww, now wait a minute! I'm supposed to be YOUR angel, hon! Look at me boo-hooing today when I'm supposed to be supporting you for your big day Monday! Bad angel! OK...angel hat screwed back on. I'll take that hug tomorrow...but YOU are also getting a big one back, my little angelette! (((hugs))) -Karen

Things will get better.... I promise! Maybe you could go out and do something for yourself! I did that today. After feeling down even though I was happy in one sence I decided to treat myself this morning. I am down by 63lbs as of yesterday when I went to see Dr. Wynn so of course I am happy about that. But this morning I decided to go and get a hair cut (I usually do my own or have my Mom trim my hair) and then I went and had nails put on (something I have never done before). I bought myself some make-up also. I am down about other things then weight but it made me feel good doing something for myself. You will have periods of no weight loss especially when it is that time of the month. Try to think positive and think of your success. Think of your son being away as a surprise. The next time you see him you will be even more healthier and looking so damn good he won't know you are his Mom! I don't know what else to say about your missing your son. I sometime wish I could send my kids away for awhile *L*. Weight loss is a great thing but along with it comes emotions you would never expect to feel. That is when us gastric bypass people need to band together and support each other. I'm here if you need to talk. Email me and I will send you my phone number! Sometimes we need a boost from others and there is nothing shameful about needing that. I hope you feel better!!!! Hope