I need Answers Please!!!!

Hi All, It's that time again. Yes, for me to vent. My support systems are in order, my weight is pulling off fast, but fast in who's eyes? Not mine that is for sure. Oh you look so good, to who? Not me. I know you feel good, No not really. Sure I can eat just about anything and not get sick, at least for now. Be thankful they say, oh but I am thankful. So what are you trying to say they ask? I am doing this thing because I have no choice at his point I say. But in the meantime can anybody tell me when does it get better. I have talked with my therapist, I have talked with my Lisa C. I have talked with Lisa D. I have talked with Wendy, I have talked with Debbie and tons of others. But when do I feel better I ask. Now what I need to know is the real deal. I need to talk to someone who is having the emotional difficulties that I am having. I am not sure what is wrong, is it just me, am I the only one that feels this way. I mean I read post after post after post and I hear all the glitz and glamour, but I have yet to come across anyone that has really displayed any real emotional trauma. If you are out there please respond because I need to talk. If you do not wanna tell your story on air please email me privately. I just need to know am I the only person that feels this way. I can give very good advice, and I can give lots of support and say encouraging things and mean them from the bottom of my heart, but I can not take my own advice, I am terrible at being my own support person. I am not trying to scare and new post ops or pre ops, this does not affect everybody the same, but for me it is beyond anything I could have evr conceived mentally and before I loose my mind I just need to know is it me? Am I the only person that feels this way? Adrienne

Hi Adrienne, I guess I am not really qualified to post an answer to you about when you will begin feeling better since I am still pre-op, however I want you to know I'm thinking of you and hope you find yourself where you want to be soon! I read your profile and notice you stopped updating it. Please continue with the updates, those always help me so much. Good to hear you have talked with your therapist, keep on talking and talking and asking till you find what it is you need to make all this right in your own mind. I hope I can count on you when I'm post-op to remind me of my own words lol. You did a VERY good thing for yourself by having this done, and like all things that are "good" for us it is difficult right now. Remind yourself of the crazy hormone fluctuations and all the roller coaster physical things your body is going through right now. Talk to your doc about possible depression, could be you need something to help you cope right now. So many chemical changes are happening right now. Take a deep breath and relax about your weight loss. You are doing wonderfully! I know it's easy for me to say that because I am not in your shoes right now, but just think of me as another calm voice saying hang on, this too shall pass. Deep breath and one day at a time. Kudos to you for being brave enough to post how you are feeling! I hope you feel better soon. Linda

hello adrienne, i want you to know i read your question over and over and even read your profile before i decided to answer. i knew what i wanted to say, but wasn't sure how to write it all down. i under stand so much what you are doing thur. while we are overweight we daydream about being a normal weight, we cry, we sometimes are even shamed of our weight. and when we make the choice to have wls.....we play the waiting game. the waiting game is a roller coaster of emotion. we want the surgery and would do almost anything to have it done ASAP!! and then we get scared and nervous of the unknown things that could happen to us during and after wls. we spend months on this roller coaster.....and then the big day. you wake up in pain thinking what the hell did you do to yourself. it get's easier as the days go on, your spending all your energy trying to get better and your impressed with the drastic drop in weight the first couple of weeks. then when you start to feel better, you start focusing on only the weightloss. it consumes your every thought and then you start focusing on what you can't eat instead of what you can eat. with the weightloss starting off quickly in the begining it can cause depression because of messed up hormone levels........and that makes everything else worse. we spent so much time in the begining worrying and hopeing about he surgery and now that we finally have it done ...we have to find something NEW to worry about. i was kinda of depressed when i didn't think i was losing fast enough, but then i looked at over 50 profiles of people who had their surgery the same week as i did...and i was NORMAL. i have weighted myself everyday since the surgery. because i did this everyday in the morning for the first 3 months and can see a very very firm pattern in my weightloss. now that i know there will be a week where i will only lose 1 pound, i pretty much know when that week will be. i have begun to only weight once a week now. most of us spent alot of time being overweight we don't know how to deal with the weightloss. i know for myself with losing and gaining over and over, it was really hard to believe...or better yet i was scared to believe that this weight is coming off. what i mean by being scared is that i didnt' want to get my hopes up. i can't even count how many diets have have tried in the past wanting more than anything to finally get this weight off only to fail and fall into a deep self-hating depression. by having wls i am putting all my eggs in one basket and hoping my basket doesn't fall over. i'm not worried about how fast i lose compared to anyone else because i know i WILL lose it no matter how slow. your in the first stages and your emotions are going to be all over the place...but it does get better.

Adrienne: You are always there for everyone else. We are here for you to vent. Hope things pick up soon.