Update from Joanne
Joanne---
I know this is a rough time for you and your family and it appears to very difficult for your 9 yr old grandson. I also saw where you posted that you are going on thursday to make funeral arrangemnts. I would suggest you ask the funeral home for information for kids on death and dying. I know when my grandfather died a couple years ago the funeral home up here had a good program for kids to help them with the process of death and dying.
You and your family are inmy thought and prayers....please be sure to take care of yourself .
Amy
I know this is a rough time for you and your family and it appears to very difficult for your 9 yr old grandson. I also saw where you posted that you are going on thursday to make funeral arrangemnts. I would suggest you ask the funeral home for information for kids on death and dying. I know when my grandfather died a couple years ago the funeral home up here had a good program for kids to help them with the process of death and dying.
You and your family are inmy thought and prayers....please be sure to take care of yourself .
Amy
Debbie, Call anytime. I sit in the bedroom with Bob alot jus****ching TV. You are never bothering me and like I said at the meeting you never know who needs a break. My faith is what keeps me going. I don't know how I could handle this without it. Hope you are feeling better. Talk with you soon. Joanne
Dear Joanne,
My prayers are with Bob, you and your family. I just lost my father in June and I found him in bed looking as if he was still sleeping. It was a very hard experience and yet I am comforted to know that he was not in the hospital hooked up to tubes, etc. He looked peaceful and I remembered that he had his birthday exactly 1 week to the day he died. When I called him on the morning of his birthday, I always called and sang "Happy Birthday" and he would sing it with me with the ending "Happy Birthday to ME". It was a joke between us. He had been saying a week before I won't see my birthday this year. and I just said oh Dad -- don't say that. But he had been saying it all year. from one holiday to the next event and we just got used to him saying it and my mother even said "you keep saying that and I will call and get your reservation made" :) They were married 62 years and had a Archie Bunker and Edith way of joking. I am saying this only to let you know that we never know when it is "time" for our loved ones to pass on but each and everyone of us knows the day is coming -- we just put it aside.. my dear Daddy was deaf in one ear and slight hearing in the other (probably from the days of being in the Navy during WWII as a underwater demolition swimmer) and he had macular degeneration and when he couldn't drive and see he felt "useless". It was hard to see him not be able to do the things he enjoyed but I know he had the memories that 84 years of living could give him. We ofter would call each other and talk about the "old days" and the "Old cowboy and war movies" that we watched together and try to remember the names of the actors. sometimes he remembered before me :) So I try and take each day and remember those times...it has only been a couple of months and I still have times when the tears come when I remember something or hear something from the past...and I try to go somewhere and let them come. I do know that he is in a better place and doing the things he could not see, hear or manage to do down here. I pray for his guidance and tell him I love him every night and I know he is watching over me and my family. You see I am his oldest daughter and at 61 years of age had the "history" of life with him. I was very very lucky to have been blessed that way. I will keep you and Bob and your family in my prayers and pray you will find the peace knowing that Bob is not suffering and in a better place. I hope my Daddy gets to meet him up there :) Truly take care of yourself, and God Bless You. Pat
My prayers are with Bob, you and your family. I just lost my father in June and I found him in bed looking as if he was still sleeping. It was a very hard experience and yet I am comforted to know that he was not in the hospital hooked up to tubes, etc. He looked peaceful and I remembered that he had his birthday exactly 1 week to the day he died. When I called him on the morning of his birthday, I always called and sang "Happy Birthday" and he would sing it with me with the ending "Happy Birthday to ME". It was a joke between us. He had been saying a week before I won't see my birthday this year. and I just said oh Dad -- don't say that. But he had been saying it all year. from one holiday to the next event and we just got used to him saying it and my mother even said "you keep saying that and I will call and get your reservation made" :) They were married 62 years and had a Archie Bunker and Edith way of joking. I am saying this only to let you know that we never know when it is "time" for our loved ones to pass on but each and everyone of us knows the day is coming -- we just put it aside.. my dear Daddy was deaf in one ear and slight hearing in the other (probably from the days of being in the Navy during WWII as a underwater demolition swimmer) and he had macular degeneration and when he couldn't drive and see he felt "useless". It was hard to see him not be able to do the things he enjoyed but I know he had the memories that 84 years of living could give him. We ofter would call each other and talk about the "old days" and the "Old cowboy and war movies" that we watched together and try to remember the names of the actors. sometimes he remembered before me :) So I try and take each day and remember those times...it has only been a couple of months and I still have times when the tears come when I remember something or hear something from the past...and I try to go somewhere and let them come. I do know that he is in a better place and doing the things he could not see, hear or manage to do down here. I pray for his guidance and tell him I love him every night and I know he is watching over me and my family. You see I am his oldest daughter and at 61 years of age had the "history" of life with him. I was very very lucky to have been blessed that way. I will keep you and Bob and your family in my prayers and pray you will find the peace knowing that Bob is not suffering and in a better place. I hope my Daddy gets to meet him up there :) Truly take care of yourself, and God Bless You. Pat
Pat, Thanks for your reply. It did bring back memories of my Dad's death. It sounds like your Dad and Bob have alot in command when it comes to T.V.. Bob loves westerns and TV Land. Personally I hate watching something over and over but I have done it alot lately. Funny, Bob's best friend ( Miss Helen ) is 84. You would never know it for she still works a full time job . Both Bob and I have strong faith and that is what gets us thru. The hardest part is to watch someone suffer. I know he will be in a better place and so happy with his father and others who have passed on before him. Someday we will all be there. May God bless and confort you . Thanks again. Joanne
Its definitely the hardest thing a person can do...watching a love one pass. But the one thing I did appreciate was the ability for Gram and I to talk about things that I never knew about her life. Listen to her and help her with anything she needed. I think that was the happiest time was coming home and talking with her. I was so upset when the end came near and she couldn't talk anymore. It was very lonely and I was out of sorts and didn't know what to do. Luckily she did that for a few days only. I still haven't gotten the house back together since her passing. I think I fear that once I get it back together she will be gone for good. I keep her photos around and think of her often. I will say its a sad time but its also a good time. We appreciate the time God gives us together. Make the most of it...I am sure you are. I am sure Bob appreciates having you with him. Just remember you have to take care of yourself as well. I did contract shingles about 10 months after her death and I am sure the stress of dealing with that part of life and keeping my current life in place played into the white cell shortage for me. Don't let that happen to you.
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Debbie
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Debbie, Thanks ! You know you are always so inspirational to me. I know you struggled with Grammy's passing and I remember how well you took care of her. I bet her eyes lit up when you came home too. I was struggling on taking care of myself due to depression and not taking my meds. We discussed short term goals at my last support group meeting and mine was to get back on track with meds and vitamins. I am doing much better at this now. I really wish I could find a vitamin I like. That would truely help. I just hate the chewables and have tried so many. You are heard loud and clear ! I will do my best. I hope to see you Saturday. I miss seeing all you guys up North but I will be back soon. See you lighter. Joanne
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