frustrated

Hi Delaware folks . . . I posted this to my June '04 board about a week ago . . . but after reading the "wake up Delaware" messages . . . I'm going to jump right in and start participating more here. I am so frustrated. I am dealing with the same 10 pounds over and over and over again. My body just WANTS to be in the 160's. And darn it I want to be in the 150's hahaha. After my tummy tuck in November 05 I dropped to 148 . . . but slowly have crept back up and usually stay between 160-165. But I have to be SO careful. One bite of carbs causes me to gain a clothes size. (OK I'm exaggerating here but that's the way it feels.) I am a stress eater, and have been going through a lot of changes lately. My partner of 10 years and I have split, I have moved to a new state (DE) and now am having trouble finding work in my field. My kids and I are staying with my mother until I find work (not FUN moving back in with your mother at 45 years of age with two young kids in tow, trust me on THIS). I have too much free time on my hands, and keep finding myself with my head stuck in the fridge. Today was the day of reckoning -- it's finally getting warm here so I pulled the summer clothes out of storage. Let's just say if I don't lose ten pounds, I am going to have to go clothes shopping for a size bigger -- or go naked LOL. -BJ in Long Neck/PotNets-Lakeside 300/150/168.4 today grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Hi BJ and welcome to DE. It is frustrating when we can't get those pounds off. What is your line of work? I am a native Delawarean and might be able to point you in a different direction. Deanna

Same here! What do you do? Your regain is controllable and totally not uncommon. I'm playing with the same 6# for the past year! I can't seem to get past 175 and I despirately want to get down to 160. Today I'm at 179. Just know that you're not alone!

Hi Barbara, I live in Creekside...up the road a piece from ya! And Joanne Hammond lives nearby too...cool...! I also started at 300 pounds, my goal is also 150 pounds, and sit right now at 196. I am almost 8 months out and feel I have accomplished alot. I have to say this has been the hardest thing I have ever done, but worth it. I played with the same 8-10 pounds for almost 2 months. I finally stopped getting on the scale so much. I sooo wanted to see myself under 200 pounds. I am there now, and refuse to beat myself up when the scale doesn't move down every day. I can now wear a regular size XL t-shirt instead of a 6X, and I can buy pants from the regular size racks now. Another couple of pounds and I might even get into a size 14! I haven't worn a 14 since I was around 13 years old. I went to Michigan to see my mom and sisters this past week. I have to say, after seeing me and the results of this surgery, I finally have their support. Mom was very against me doing this and was afraid I would have complications, and kept telling me that I could lose the weight without taking such drastic actions. She was afraid the surgery itself would kill me because I was in such delicate health. I accepted her opinion but went on with it anyways. I prayed that God would help her see things as I saw them. I needed her to be in my body for just one day. I wanted her to live with my fear of dying, leaving my kids behind. I wanted her to have the arthritis and immobility and helplessness that kept me from being able to even stand without pain. In the end, we agreed to disagree. My sisters had the same fears and insecurities as Mom did, but weren't as against my decision. They have all seen me now. My one sister gave me a hug as I left to come back to Delaware, and said, "I love you so much and I am so glad you had the surgery. I didn't want to lose you, Kathy. You look fabulous." She has struggled recently with some weight gain and is often in tears after getting on the scales. Another sister, who has suffered with eating disorders all of her life and is anorexic, said; "Geez...want me to save my old clothes for you? You look like you might be needing them soon!" I visited all of my former co-workers and all were amazed at the changes I have experienced. One of the guys I used to work with even cried when he saw me. I was very touched. I have another sister who has moved to Tennessee since I last saw her, so I didn't get to be with her. I have sent pictures to her and she is also happy I had the surgery. I think my family was simply torn...if I didn't do something soon, another heart attack was looming very nearby. If I went under the knife, I could die in surgery. I had to take the risk, because I would surely have died without it. I have no regrets. None. I hope you come out of your slump soon, but in the meantime, stay focused on what you have accomplished thus far. Hey, have you ever been to The Hot Dog House? Maybe we can chow on a dog and chat...No bun of course, but with tons of chili and cheese! (I usually can't eat a whole hot dog) Their chili is really good! Take care and be good to yourself. KathyG

LOL Kathy I only *wish* I couldn't eat a whole hot dog . . . I am coming up on my 3-year WLS anniversary and my days of limited restriction are long gone. I can eat a regular-sized meal (in fact, I've always felt I could take in quite a bit more than other RNY'ers were reporting). I also do not dump (never have) so it is a constant effort to keep myself eating the right kinds of foods and limiting my portions. That said . . . I would love to meet you at the Hot Dog House soon . . . I have been there twice with the kids, they love looking at the pictures on the walls LOL. You know, they are building a new community center here in the Lakeside PotNets community. I wonder what the rules are for reserving a meeting room? Maybe you, Joanne and I could start up a LongNeck meeting -- I know the drive to Rehoboth Beach during the busy seaon will be a real bear?! I'm gonna call Tunnell this week and see what's involved and if we can use the center for something like this? -BJ

Hello everyone, I very very new at this, actually I met Deanna at one of the support groups, she and another great friend of mine (Gladys) has been great, I'm support frustrated as well BJ, I'm stuck and my weight won't go any lower.  Let me interject, I spoke to Dr Peters last week he told me my body is getting used to losing all the weight that I have already lost, its arguing with me at the moment, he contends I will win.  I'm doing all the right stuff proteins, meds, vitamins, pureed foods.  I'm po-op it will be a month June 3rd, any help that anyone can suggest would be welcome......   thanks for all of you time.  John