What happens if you really have no one to help you

What happens if you really have no one to help you - to be there - to listen - to hold your hand etc? I don't mean to whine but my surgery on 11/30, has given me a red flag of things to come. My boyfriend of over 2 yrs was there to drive me to the hospital and stayed till I was in my room. He did come to the hospital to pick me up but made it clear he was hungry and other things to do. He took me home. I wanted to shower he did aid me there. Within two hours, he left. He promised his best friend to help with a wkend move (know the best friend for over five yrs). From the best friend's house, he is going to work (he is a trucker). He will be on the road for the next 2-3 wks. I do have two kids within 1 hr drive of me, ages 25 & 27. I called them. They have not bothered me. I do have a mom, age 72, I visited her last wk. She is not doing well with her bad knees. Like many other older people, she is refusing treatment. Mom can drive. Mom lives about 1 hr drive (her way 55 grippping the steering wheel the whole way) What happens if you really have no one to help you - to be there - to listen - to hold your hand etc? I don't mean to whine but this experience has not given me a warm fuzzy of "family" and support. Any suggestion?

Hi Cecilia Sorry you seem to be lacking support all around. But you have friends on this board if you need to "rant" Maybe you should kick the bf to the curb if he isn't much of a help anyway. just my feeling.. As far as your kids ?? Give them a call and TELL them you need help , if you need it . My kids don't get it when I "hint" I have to tell them or it doesn't register that I wanted their help. If you need to vent I am just an email away.... Sandy

Sandy, I'm so sorry to hear that you are having such a tough time. Like the other poster on this board said, sometimes you have to tell your kids that you need their help. I know that's how it is with my kids, epecially my daughter. I live in Newark and if you need some help, I'd be happy to help you if I can. Please let me know. Jennifer

thank you for the quick thoughtful posts. I knew I could turn to this avenue of support. C.

Cecillia, How arwe you doing sweetie? Hope each day gets a little bit easier. Wow, sounds like you need an "angel" An angel listens, gives advice and is there to help. Of course there are some issues that need to be answered by the Dr's. If you have questions, ask away. Someone will answer. I have tons of angelette's. I was pretty lucky. I did most things on my own, but did have some help from family and friends & neighbors. Thank God. I got very house bound. So my neighbors came and got me and took me to Target, the grocery store and Michael's. I didn't need anything, I just needed to get out and walk and be around people. So ask away, someone could be near enough to help while you are re-couping. Remember to walk, sip & breathe. This will help your speedy recovery. Email me your phone so I can call you. ((HUGS)) Elissa