Here we go again.....P is for

Perception. We let perceptions rule our worlds sometimes! Its hard to determine if what we think is actually what is happening. The negative chatter goes through the brain which kick starts the mouth and stomach....saying FEED ME. We may not be hungry but our perception is we are so we feed. We can change this with a little work on our part. Instead of the negative chatter we need to focus on a positive spin and change those words that send us to the refrigerator! The further you go in this journey the harder it gets for us and we definitely have to be more mindful of this. Practice positive feedback to yourself. Good thoughts help to provide you with a better perception of reality! So what does P do for you???? Debbie

P is for persistance. Even on a bad day ( or two or three ) we need to focus on our goal and get back on the horse and be persistant in remembering what we did this for and how important it is to us. Ellen

P is for PRIORITIES. I had to rearrange all of my priorities to put me and my WLS first priority. Because I have done this I have been able to stay focused on what my long range goal is and how hard I have to work to get there. Thanks Debbie. Deanna

P for me is protein 1st, positive attitude 2nd, people 3rd, potty 4th and push 5th. Get that protein in however you can. The positive attitude helps me stay focused. I love sharing with pre-op's and post-ops, thus the people part. Potty cause I drink so much now I need to have a potty near by or I'm in trouble. Push the good choices and reject the bad ones. I'll never be perfect but, practice, practice, practice and someday who knows. ((HUGS)) Elissa

Perfect!!!!! We all need to know we are not perfect and make mistakes. The inportant thing is to face up and take ownership for what we have done and the consequences for the choices we make. Lately I have made some very bad choices and the consequences is that I have gained 17 lbs. I know exactly where I went wrong and where to start again. I could kick myself and beat myself up like I have done in the past but what would it help. It was so easy to fall into old habits when I lost sight of my goal. With my husband's illness I totally lost sight. His illness is something I can not fix and it has torn me apart. I know where I am heading if I don't take ownership and get back on track. I know some will say how could she do that. Beleive me I have said this myself. I met a women today at the dr's office who lost 150 lbs 3 years ago and has gained it all back but 30 lbs. She was really feeling hopeless and felt her surgery failed and here was me with my gain feeling like crap. My problem felt so little at the time. I closed the door and talked to this lady for over an hour. We both agreed we were not perfect, have made choices to put us where we were today. I think God works in mysterious ways and it was meant for me and this lady to be in the Dr's office at the same time. Sorry I got off track but I feel it is inportant to see consequences for wrong decisions . We are so fast to tell our wow moments. Well I am not perfect and here is my not so wow moment. Here's to hopefully seeing you all lighter. Joanne

Just wanted you to know I have been thinking about you and hoping things were going better for you. Its hard adjustments that we have to make in life. I hope to see you soon...Picnic is next week will you be there? Debbie

Debbie, I do plan on coming to the picnic. I am trying to get more details like what is the cost. Are kids welcome? I can come with or without my grandkids. Debbie will be coming with me. She was jumping tru hoops to get her heart clearance but she went to a Dr. in D.C. Monday and got it. She was doing the happy dance before she got her cloths on. Things are going ok with Bob. He is on a feeding tube 16 hours aday and hates it. He did gain a lb this week and his protein stores are normal. This was the first week I heard something positive about this ordeal in weeks. I know I lost sight dealing with all this but I am back on track. I feel like humpty dumpty. I feel like I hit a brick wall in this journey but I am getting put back together again. I will have to tell you about the lady I met in the Dr's office when I see you . Her name was hope and I think she was a God send. How is grammy and the new job? Sorry I haven't read the message board for awhile as you can see. Everyone will have to update me. See you lighter. Get out the fleece blackets. Joanne

Let Ken Miller know you are coming and how many! Somewhere on this site his number and email exists. All you need to do is bring a covered dish. Let him know what it is.....Kids are welcomed! New job is trying. Trainer is giving me a hard time. I am not really sure what I am suppose to do but I guess I will figure it out in time. Or quit one or the other right! Gram passed away August 24th...it was a sad day. Glad things are looking up for you. Debbie

Debbie, I am so sorry to here about Grammy but I do know she is in God's hands now and not suffering. I feel like such a dope !!!! I have been so out of touch with all going on with my husband that I didn't even know she passed. I am truely sorry !!!! Maybe things will get better with the job. If not you can always find a new one. This was the dream job RIGHT???? Or did I miss something there too? See you lighter. Joanne

You are right she is in better hands. Dream job is the same.....not how I thought I would enter into it. I am sure its still a good job just very bad start with a trainer who knows nothing about the support I have to give. Its like the blind leading the blind. I am sure if I had to do her job she could walk me through but she doesn't know what each of the managers need...I have 4 people plus underlings to support...not how it was explained in interview but that is what I bought! Oh well. My bad! Its frustrating to not understand the processes that go on there. And the trainer was nothing but demeaning to me! I am level b and she is level c and I really don't know what the difference is nor do I really care....I would think an Office Administrator is an Office Administrator with a few differences but they should be able to be explained to me. Of course she doesn't explain anything to you....lets you hang yourself. I am so frustrated that all I can think about is quitting. Which is a bad mindset to be in this early in the game. I am not sure if I have given the job enough adjustment time...maybe this week will be better. I just have been harping the bad stuff all weekend in my head and its really hard to see it getting better right now. Negative chatter is a really bad thing to have...and I got it bad. Sorry to ramble along to you but I needed to get this out of me! I hate being this way! Debbie