surgery tomorrow

Hi. This is my first time posting. My surgery is tomorrow. I have been crying all day. I am not scared of the surgery. I am trying to pinpoint my crying. One thing I know is my children and best friends have been very supportive. My four siblings not so much. I grew up with dysfunction..obviously..or I would not have become so fat. I wrote my loved ones asking for support about a month ago. none of them plan to come see me in the hospital. Too far for one..45 minutes..have my friend who is bringing me call another so she knows i made it off the table, otherwise she is working and will be too tired. Another one who would have to trek 1 1/2 hours..and besides that's what they pay nurses for. Another who I have not heard from at all. I am divorced with grown children, live alone. I am so greatful for my childrens support, and my friends driving me, staying over when I get home. It just hurts so bad that these people who are my family don't want to change their schedule for me. Has anyone else experienced this?

Ok, First I am so sorry that 16 people read this post and non felt the need or heart to respond. That saddens me.. This is a support group forum and when I see lots of visitors and no responses.. So here I am.. Sweetie you will be fine.. We all go through the same thing.  And everyone after us will go through the same as we did. It's never going to change we all have the same feelings and thoughts.  It's scarey when we think of the unknown... You will be fine.. Take someone with you that is fun to be with that makes you laugh so that your not sitting there just waiting. Feel free to make jokes and laugh. Don't be scared I promise it will be over faster then you even know it.  Listen when you started they did all kinds of tests am I right? well do you think if they thought you were going to die or it would come out with bad results that they would allow you to do it? NOOOOO... I felt the same way last week when I went into surgery.. They will not do anything to hurt you and if something goes wrong they can fix it that's why they are called Doctors.  So with that said.. I'm so excited for you. I am on the losing side now and down over 3 lbs already. I am still very filled with gas and fluid so I am not doing my first weigh in till week 2.  You are going to do great....  I would like to come and see you when you get there. My name is Angela Howell.. You will know who I am by my picture. How many days do they think you will be there? And where the heck is middlesex ct ? I'm sorry that your family is not supporting you the way they should but know you have us here and your children.. Oh and not forgetting your best friend... wtg best friend.
Well GOOD LUCK I will need your real name in order to see you at the hosptial you can send it to my personal email [email protected]
Hugs
Angela
ps see you post op

Middlesex hopital is in Middletown, CT right off route 9.  My surgery is at the same hopital on Tuesday.

I will get there on wed. tuesday night there is something I have to do. Talk to you then.. Make sure you send me your full name sweetie..

Sandra Stella and lets hope it doesn't snow like my husband says its going to.

Hey Sandra, I am Nancy. I am getting ready to head out to the hospital. I have seen you at the Support Group meetings. You will be getting into the hospital before the storm. All will be well. I'm sure we will be doing laps around the nurses staion together! Angie, I would love to meet you. But..not in the snow. Otherwise I plan to go to the L&M support group meeting on the 19th, and we will meet then. Thanks!

Well, I will come out if its not bad.. And if it is bad then we will have to meet at the meeting on the 19th.  Listen both of you. I am also starting a TOPS for bypass group its take off pounds Sensibly.  I would love for you both to come. I have the chapter open in Norwich CT but am considering moving it over to New London or a place in the middle of all of us so we can have an extra support group to help each other.  Let me know your thoughts girls. and guys hehe..

GOOD LUCK TODAY

 I think I lot of people do. There is sadness for having reached the point of NEEDING surgery; there is sadness in thinking that you will be losing a longtime though dysfunctional friend (food); there is sadness at the prospect of the unknown. Then, add to that the family difficulties you are dealing with, and the crying is totally explainable.

However, you should know that there is always support on OH, either here or on one of the many other boards. Don't be afraid to reach out!

Best of luck with your surgery and please let us know how everything goes!

Bette

Thank you for responding Bette. You brought up some points i did not even think about. Heading to the hospital soon..onward and upward..