Here I am~

Hello CT OH Family~ I have been gone for a while but Im back and doing much better. Its been a rough ride marriage wise since having this surgery. I stopped posting for awhile because I think my husband was having someone look at this site and read my posts. During our fights he would bring things up that I ONLY had shared here....it was weird and scary. But I am doing well and taking it day by day. Its sad though that at the best time in my life (weight wise, self esteem wise) I have be having the ****tist time in my marriage. So lets see if he brings any of this up in our next fight, then Ill really have to investigate which one of his friends or family members is reading this~ Anyway I am doing fantastic weightloss wise, I have lost 82 pounds, and am a size 12 (was a 24) have not been this small since 1993!!! I care about my looks now and I started selling AVON!!!!! They have everything in there from shoes to clothes to purses to awesome make-up, kids clothes toys etc...........Im so excited to be a rep and a pretty rep at that!!! So if any of you are looking for AVON Products let me know Ill send you a Brochure!!! And one more thing about AVON, they have this fantastic product out now that was featured on the Today Show and Goodmorning America called SUPER SHAPE, it helps reduce the apprearance of cellulite AND stretch marks!!! It is made with a Lipo-Botanical Complex that helps reduce the appearnace of the 2, they do not vanish but they most certainly diminish!!!! I have noticed that all my old white stretch marks are gone AND It has firmed up my left over belly flab!!!!!!!!! It is fabulous!!! If anyone wants a sample let me know Ill mail it to you, Or you can try before you buy and Ill send you the full size and try it for 2 weeks, if you dont notice anything send it back Ill pay shipping...... I love the stuff, I put it on morning and night, and it has really firmed my lower half!!! So thats it about me, just getting into my AVON to take my mind off other things. I miss coming to the boards and Im going to make an effort to get here everyday. I would like to go to the picnic, when is it? I couldnt go to the dance because of you know who...its always tit-for-tat with him. ughhhhhhhhhh anyway Miss you all!!! oh yes Tammy, I did not speak to the YMCA yet so go ahead with your plan but I will still look into the Y.......sorry it took me a while to get back to you ~Bethany 266/184/???

Hey Bethany, Welcome back to the boards. We missed you at the dance. I hope your doing okay. Sounds like your keeping busy thats good. Keep up the positivity and take good care of yourself. Your always in our thoughts and prayers. Take care Hugs KimC

Hey Bethany. Glad to hear your "Journey" is going well. Spouse's sometime act a bit "out of sorts" during our "Journeys". Seeing such dramatic changes in our apperances can they make them feel uneasy. Hope it all works out for you. Try to talk it out and get consuling if you have too. Has helped me and my wife. Good Luck, Julio

OK.. let see what I can add as fuel to the fire.................... Have you ever heard of the term "Mean Green Foam"??? Jealousy by any other term. Sometimes weight is a control issue for a partner. You never have to worry. Their thoughts include "Who was want that Fat*** (fill in your least favorite noun)", "No one wantshim/her" and other things which add to our depression and anxiety. Once the weight starts coming off, there is a new found attraction. As it continues, that new found attraction can turn posessive, and make someone terrible to be with. Accusations, spying, mistrust all surface and make one of the most wonderful times of your life some of the worst. What happens depends on both of you. First of all, get both of you help. Second of all, take time to talk. Get away from everything else and talk. Nice, quietly and friendly. DO NOT use Jerry Springer as the guidelines of how to approach the situation. Thrid, if you get upset over something, be willing to tell the other that you are upset BUT if you cannot talk about is without becomming emotional, agree to keep some distance to allow it to difuse some and then talk. You cannot afford to add emotional issues on top of anger. Fourth, don't give up until you have exhausted every possible answer. I'm not asying a bad relationship is good, but it might be better than no relationship. I'm not say stay in any abusive relationship. But if a relationship was worth being in in the first place, it's worth trying to fix it. Yes, I'm an incurable romatic. Hope you find the time to do this, and make a copy for your husband. Than walk away, let him cool off for a while, and go back and start talking. Best of luck Peter

Bethany, I am glad to hear you are back and doing okay. I have had relationship changes as well although I am not married. I think he thought I couldnt get anyone better and when I did his whole life was turned up side down and now he is trying to ruin my whole life. Its been a crazy ride, but hang in there. Its great to be your own looking great, and feeling great person. Do your thing girl! I hope it all turns out for the best and I wish you lots of luck. I want to see some updated pics. I am working on getting mine up. Should be soon. Talk to ya soon. Bree