Going to California

Hi Dave Why are you entertaining the idea of not coming to group? I go on the post-op group night once a month and it's useful. I know the discussion last night was a little "off color" but I hope that's not why. You mention that you will come back when you hit a certain number why is that? You're doing great, it's only a number. Wait until you see how happy your new butt is in that airplane seat and you won't care about the number. I hope to see you in group when you are back from Cali.

As far as the meeting being "off-color", I didn't notice it and certainly wasn't in the least bit offended. I am not really the type to get offended unless people are causing each other pain. The number I quoted was just an arbitary one, a goal that I am looking towards... I don't really obsess too much about the actual weight. For me, right now, this is all much more about personal happiness. If you were to ask me a few months ago, I would have said it was about achieving long-forgotten or tabled goals. Part of this process does involve a change in more than weight. I think there is a change in personality too. This process reminds me a little of my freshman year of college, where everything seemed so chaotic and new. It is a beautiful thing to see so many people gaining more fulfilling lives after the surgery. The numbers I said were just an arbitrary point to come back and visit. Dave

Don't even think about not coming to group or we will all come to your house and park in your driveway, drink beer, talk loudly and annoy the neighbors. You'd hate that You add plenty of wit, humor and not a little very welcome testosterone to the mix! Don't dare stay away... if you know what's good for you! Your old Auntie Mame

How would that make what happens at my house any different? Honestly, I think people believe I am much worse than I really am. Too much physcial fatigue, too frustrated about not being able to exercise, too worried about pontentially losing my job again (this time due to budget cuts)... and that's just the stuff am deciding to bring up. I will try to bring pictures back of Yosemite and/or Sequioa. Dave