Jessica - How did it go?

Okay now - inquiring minds that care - want to know.......How did your reunion with your Mom go? Do you want to share?? Best Regards, Tammy Count down: 5 days!

it went just like I thought that it would. She is still super critical of me and nothing that I do pleases her. But ita ok because I don't let her get under my skin anymore...its easier not to have to deal with her but if I have too then it will have to be on an infrequent basis. She did say that she would be there when I got out of surgery but then in another breathe she went on to say that I was too skinny and that she didn't think that I needed another surgery. I simply pointed out to her that i was carrying around 7-10 lbs of SKIN on my abdomin and that I would physically feel better if I took care of it. Nothing makes her happy but my brothers and their perfect families. Jessica 5 days until full abdominalplasty!

Hey Jessica, I am so proud of you for standing up to her and showing her how great your doing. You have succeeded in your weightloss and you should be very proud of yourself sweetie. Don't let her get you down or make you question any decisions you make. We all love you here in the OH Family and what you have accomplished is a great thing. Your on your way to have your tummy tuck and you will look gorgeous. Your gorgeous inside and out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Whatever comes your way you can handle, your not too skinny if your healthy and happy. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. There is no such thing as a perfect family either. They all have skeletons, believe me. You are a wonderful person and I am honored to know you and hope to meet you some day to let you know that in person. We love you lots. HUGS AND HUGS Take care and stay strong. KimC

Well that sucks that it didn't go that well - but she did say she'd be there for you - did she say that because you think she feels obligated or did she say that because she really wants to be there? Anyway - I'm sorry it didn't go well, but at least you can talk to her on an infrequent basis. Hang in there Jessica, you are going to feel so great after that hanging skin is gone! Best Regards, Tammy Count Down: 5 days!

Jessica, I just finished reading about what has been going on with you at OH messageboard. You are handling things very well. Don't let negative comments from your mother or anyone else get you down. You have accomplished so much, you can be proud of yourself. My mother and I were talking about my surgery and what amount of weight I might lose. She stated to me that if I got to 175lbs that would be good. I told her if I lost more and got to 140 I would be even happier. She then said to me you don't want to lose too much weight. I'm thinking, you have got to be kidding. She has been encourageing me to lose weight my whole life and now she is worried I'll lose too much. I just told her "I don't want anyone to tell me I've lost too much weight or are too skinny" She didn't say anything more. I'm sure your mother is worried about you having surgery again because of the risks involved with any surgery. Her comments may be because she is afraid something might happen to you and what she says is what comes from that fear. I know my own mother worries and I explain to her that I have learned all I can about WLS and risks and benefits and have waited a long time to decide to have this done and am really ready to make a change in my life for the better. I have had her come with me to visits with the dietician and to weight loss seminar so she could hear first hand information. Well all my best on your pending surgery. It won't be easy but it is one more step in completing your journey and you should feel much better after you recover and your clothes will fit better too. Take care, sincerely Sher

Jessica- LET IT GO! And besides just think- pretty soon there will be less skin for her to get under LMAO! Right????? (gotta keep laughing honey- it's the only way to go) Mothers. Tough subject sometimes.