More Than 3 Years Out and Struggling???

Hi Paula, I went to a group 8-week program that Kim led - can't remember the name of it but it was more about how NOT to regain the weight; how to manage the weight loss. This was about 3 years ago. Is this the group you're talking about? Otherwise, if not, I didn't know Kim was doing a group for re-gainers. Maybe that's what we should all sign up for! Maureen

Hi Maureen,

This group was two years ago and it was specifically for regain...those that regained some if not all.

I think she's done one more since, but I didn't want to pay twice.  I lost the $$ from the first one and only went to one.  I'd really rather not pay.

You can write or call her to talk about it.

Paula

I love Kim but I think we should do this as a "grass roots" group effort. People getting together once a month to share their struggles and gain some support; to identify strategies for success and implement them as a group collective. Not rocket science and no need to pay for the privilege! Now that we have some people interested, is Middletown a good place to meet? Let me know everyone. Maureen

My only problem is when I can meet. Weekends are the only good times for me.

Paula! I thought we talked about this before. I also thought you were going in to see him too. Oh well, just get your butt in there eventually.

*Not meant to be a lecture.

Maureen,
Count me in!  I'll celebrate my fifth anniversary in July and I'm strugglin...I've gained about 8 lbs and am really struggling to get it off...we do need to support each other.
I'm in the New Haven area, but willing to travel.  Keep me posted.
JA

I will make some contacts today and see what I can come up with as for time and place. I need you as much as you need me! Hang in there - Maureen

I'd be interested. I am having a great deal of stress in my life....I really need to unload a lot. I think i "pooh poohed" all the mental stuff that can happen after WLS. I am such a different person three and a half years later. My marriage has been kaput for 2 years, I am in a relationship (and madly in love with him) for 2 years now and he's finally going thru the legal divorce after years of seperation, my husband and I are friends thank God. We still live together and raise the children together pending our bankruptcy (I was in a car accident which snuffed out my great excercise routine i was in...and put us 150k in debt...which we have yet to recover from the jerk who hit me) Meanwhile 3 of 4 of my kids have ADHD/mood disorders/mild autism spectrum disorders/...it's a major struggle to keep us all on the sane side of life.
Okay back to the WLS part of the post LOL....I am 171 after a low of 158 (not too bad I was 168 day of tummy tuck then lost like 10-15 pounds from that - not in skin only about 5 was skin, the rest was post op ickyyy tummy) I hate myself from the waist down lol. My boyfriend actuallly adores my body the way it is, fat thighs and wiggly butt and all..I am scared that all this stress is going to push me back into bad habits I see creeping in. The sweet tooth needs chocolate  and I find I can tolerate candy and sweets now. I find myself grazing and snacking and i worry i am going to creep up and up and wake up fat again one morning.
I have no motivation to excercise no motivation to plan/monitor my diet. I need it back again. Part of the problem is I know I can't afford anymore plastic surgery and I feel like why bother losing more weight if I cant  fix the extra skin and all....sigh.
Overall I am pleased with myself. I think I am far enough out that I can't really remember being obese anymore. That could be some of it. My life is with Wayne now- and he never knew me fat. We met just before my tummy tuck, so he did know the remnants of my former self, plus he sees the lower half of my body with its loose skin, but he never knew the fat me.
I work a job I have had for two years- again they never knew the fat me. I need the support of my friends from here- Paula and you...and the others to get on/stay on the right path. We've all had struggles following WLS not just with the weight- but with life- and its easy to push ourselves down the priority list- but like I said I dont want ot wake up fat one morning.

PU-LEEEEZ  COUNT ME IN TWICE!!!!!!!  I am in the same boat!  

Hi Maureen,
I am so happy that you posted this. I am just over 2 years out. While I haven't regained I am not where I need to be. I am much happier but still an in pursuit of a goal. I would be very interested in this group. Please let me know or if you need help I would be glad to assist as well.
Sincerely,
Gen