Feeling the Blues today

I don't know what's the matter with me...I just feel so sad and blue.. I have so much to do and yet feel so unmotivated to do it. work is so overwhelming right now, as are my responsbilities at home... It seems that for the last 3 months or so I have been getting the blues every 2 weeks, like clockwork... It eventually passes, but in the meantime...... I really need to get my tush to a support group meeting tomorrow.... In the meantime, I hope it's not too pathetic to ask for some of you to post here.... Feeling a bit pathetic and needy, Love, Dorota

one word ANTIDEPRESSANTS. LOL Poor Dor- you are so cute READ YOUR POST "It seems that for the last 3 months or so I have been getting the blues every 2 weeks, like clockwork" HORMONES for one !!!! Can you say "cyclical" ? THIS IS NORMAL !!!! (you do remember Kim Daniels and Dr Aranow saying this would happen, right?) It's Normal normal normal- with all the chemical changes going on in your body due to WLS - this happens. Then throw in your other life stressors- family, work, HOLIDAYS (ughhh) trying to eat right and exercise right and still feel good about yourself....(Miss "I feel like a pink blob today") GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK! Go to your PCP and get on some antidepressants. Paxil is good for these cyclically linked mood swings. Prozac, Zoloft Celexa Wellbutrin.....there are many many fine medications to make you feel all happy again!!! Paxil is my "mothers little helper" - kept me from pulling a Andrea Yates after child number 4.... Get to support group meetings and get to your PCP and stop being so gosh darned hard on yourself. GROUP HUG EVERYBODY FOR DORIE!!! You me and Tammy L need to get together after the holidays and do something. We'd have a great time. Just wait til I am post op enough to laugh without it hurting.....we can get together and gripe about hubbys, kids, work,saggin body parts- whatever!!!

LOL You made me laugh....And I doublechecked, and my "I feel like a pink blob" day was november 17th....Just about a month ago...I HATE HORMONES.... I went on Wellbutrin for postpartum depression with my third kid.about 6 years ago..it was a lifesafer....This is different...I don't really relish the idea of going on anti-depressents for these short-term blues...they never last too long and to be honest with you, even though wellbutrin really helped the post partum depression, I did not like the way I felt on it...So for now I have resolved to just "grin and bear it"...And the support from my friends here goes a long way...I am also scheduled to start seeing a new therapist next week...I hope that will also help...I fully recognize that I am having a hard time dealing with little stressors without my coping mechanism (FOOD)...So I plan to work on that issue...Thank you so much for taking the time to respond......And getting together for a gripe-session seems like a great idea...... Love, Dorota

Hello Dorota! When I start feeling a bit overwhelmed I just stop and take a deep breath to recenter myself and just take what lays ahead of me in little steps. I may justify it as "God" testing me and I just do my best to pass it. Remember that in the end the only scorekeeper that really matters is ourselves. As I told you before, "Look at that Lady in the mirror!" Look what she has accomplished so far. When we don't get as far as we may like at one task, or another. We at least know we have givenit our best shot for the day and will just try again tomorrow.One of the reasons I have always loved "Sunrises" is that it's like a fresh piece of paper is being served up to fill in the book of our lives. So, try to not let the blue days take away too much from you. You will have them, we all do, and quite frankly we have to have a crappy day every once in a while to truly appreciate the good ones we have had and will have in the future. So,like the song goes" The sun will come out tomorrow, bet your bottom dollar that tomorrow, there be sun". Better days will come, and on those "blue days" know we will be here to help you through them.We are but a posting away! So, Take care sweet Lady! We are on this "Journey" together, and will be there whenever the need arise's. Julio P.S. Went grocery shopping today and was thinking of one of your earlier posts, and picked up an avacado, LOL. Can't wait for it to ripen to have some in a salad.

Thank you Julio, I can always count on you to cheer me up... I know I'll be fine, I just got a little too busy this weekend and I tend to get overwhelmed when that happens... I'm going to take a couple of hours tonight to read or watch some shows I recorded on TiVo... That should take the edge off.... Ahh, Avacado..... Last night we went to my nephew's birthday party and I indulged in some Puerto Rican Pork Roast...Protein first, lol Let me tell you, it was gooooood.... Tender and moist, and since I have a pretty hard time eating meat, it was a real treat... Thank you again for taking the time to respond to my post...I am feeling better already....This board is a real blessing...... Thank you for your kind words, Love, Dorota

Heh... I posted below and THEN read the responses... so just ignore what I said about the wellbutrin if you already tried it and didn't like it... BUT! My doc did explain to me that there's three different areas that anti-depressants work in. One is the always worried/overactive mind. Two, is the anger/frustration/aggrivation. (Wellbutrin is for one + two). And then there's class three -- which is the lethargic feeling, lack of ambition, down in the dumps. I didn't like the drugs I was on before, because it was more for the third class and that wasn't me -- so it made me crazy and weird. I'm more of class one and two... which is why Wellbutrin is awesome. Anyways... the drugs in the third class that I went on have worked for several friends of mine. They were Lexapro and Effexor, which would probably work in your case. I even tried Trazodone, but would never reccomend that to ANYONE unless you have problems with insomnia -- it KNOCKS you on your tushie BAD!!! But seriously, everyone here is right... go get yourself some happy pills!! Ask for samples... so a) you don't have to pay, and b) if you don't like them you can stop and try something else. When you find the "right" one for YOU, it is SO great!!! I am so happy I have my Wellbutrin... it really is my cure-all-happy-pill... yay for anitdepressants!!

Having delt with depression in the past I learned that some of it can be caused by a chemical imbalance in your brain. It could have nothing to do with how your life is going at the time it is a physical problem. I would check with your doctor. There are some medications that can help a great deal. In the meantime try to keep your chin up and think positive thoughts. Santa is coming next week. Oh boy!

Hi Dorota... I get that feeling every year around this time for the last 10 years, since I was about 19. It normally begins at the end of October, and lasts until March. In the past, my doctors have put me on several antidepressants... none of which worked. They all made me feel crazy and paranoid. Then finally my doctor put me on Wellbutrin... and it's only for the wintertime. He says that I probably have a seasonal depression. Many adults have it... and it seems to be worse with people struggling with weight loss. Before I went on Wellbutrin, one minute I was happy and laughing, and then literally in TEARS the next minute. It was so weird. I had NO ambition to do anything... everything seemed like a chore. I was worried about soooo much in my life, worrying TOO much. And the slightest things were frustrating me. At first I thought it was PMS, or something having to do with my diet. Then when I realized that it wasn't either... I was really worried. So he put me on the Wellbutrin and OMG it has worked WONDERS for me!! I am all of a sudden happy-go-lucky and my spirits are high. I have ambition again, and I feel like I'm on cloud nine all the time! I mean, some things still irritate me that should, but it's almost as if my brain says "Yeah, it's something that you should worry about.... but don't sweat it!!" and I don't freak out like I used to. It's awesome. It's sort of like a pain killer for your brain -- like when you take a strong pain killer, you KNOW the pain is still there, but you just don't care and it doesn't bother you. I highly recommend talking to your physician about perhaps trying it out. Most Doc's offices carry samples so you can try it out for a few weeks and see how it affects you. I know it's really done wonders for me, especially with my home life ;o)

Dorota: You always bring out something that we all can relate to when asking for help. So this must tell you ... ...you are not alone on this journey of recovery. I see it that way... recovery. or... perhaps... learning how to live without the main form of solace... food. (as it was for me). Remember, now and always... you have the CT forum behind you and with you at all times. Every day you go out the door to do your thing... we go with you. On those days of feeling frozen in one's tracks, we all can rely on the collective energy we have by gathering regularly here. I have been feeling many of the feelings you describe of late as well. And I had a thought the other day... that this is the (fat) part of me that is now learning to be strong and vibrant and get "out in the world" maybe for the first time... without using food as my crutch. So baby steps, I say... do what you can and know that those around you love and support you. Towanda

Thank you ... Thanks to all of you who took the time to reply.... I really needed these words of comfort... Towanda, you are ,as always. so right.. Baby steps.......... Love, Dorota