My Attitude SU*KS I am so bitc*Y lately....

Well I am not so sure how many of you know this but my husband and I were seperated for 4 months prior to my surgery and the weekend before my surgery he told me he was moving back in and I was so happy. He stayed with me at the hospital the WHOLE time DAY AND NIGHT untill they released me and it all seemed SO WONDERFUL.. BUT.......... Now it is back to the SOS different day and I know it is my problem. EVERY LITTLE THING IS PI**ING ME OFF.. I am so cranky that I can't stand to even be near myself. All I do is rag at him and my best friend just told me yesterday that my attitude SUC*S also... I know it does and I have no clue what to do about it. I already take meds and they are not working. The sad thing is that I am treating my husband and his daughter like a pile of dog poop. And that is what caused him to leave me before.. I do NOT want to go through that again. Has anyone else experience the 0-BITC* in 3.5 seconds flat syndrome that I am having.. Any help would be appreciated. Thanks

Hey Lisa, I use to be like that too. I went to a doctor and got help. I am on Zoloft now and I talk to my therapist alot about my moods. Most of it was because I was not happy with myself. I know exactly what your going through sweetie, you have made the first step by talking about it, now what you need to do is sit down with your hubby and talk to him. Have a romantic evening out just the two of you and talk things out. He loves you enough that he came back, and he was there for you through your surgery, try to think before you say anyting nasty. Go in another room and relax then come back and it may help. I know its hard, I try so hard and I snap alot at my husband for the stupidist things, but luckily he loves me enough that he lets it go, we talk about alot of things more now than we ever did. Everyone has ups and downs. There are no such thing as perfect relationships, try to be there for eachother and when you feel the urge to be nasty go for a walk, take a long hot bath or just go in another room and relax for awhile, its what I do sometimes. But you may want to consider talking to someone, the medicine your on may not be helping you. You may have a chemical inbalance like I do and need something alittle stronger. Anyway, I hope this has helped you. If you ever need to talk don't hesitate to contact me. Take care sweetie, and god bless. Hugs KimC

Hell Lisa I am that way and I am not even post op!!! What meds are you on, and how long? It sounds like depression, and the mood swings that follow the surgery- I know when I experienced my first bout of post partum depression, I was a royal bi-atch to my husband. Thank God the guy is a saint. I did Prozac at first- and then after child number 4 I switched to Paxil, (and hubby got a vasectomy!) The Paxil does wonders for anxiety.

Hey Lisa, I'm the same way right now. I'm very low on patience with hubby and my kids. I just want to be left alone with myself and my thoughts. I think it's still recovery and now dealing with this new way of life. Maybe we're too "into ourselves" right now and are not taking other's feelings into consideration. I've had/have to press on and through the moods for the sake of my family. I find that when I'm like that, I'm tired and going beyond my limits. Try to take calming breaths, attend a support group meeting, and YES, call your doctor and see if maybe you need a medication adjustment. I'm going to have to as well. Don't know if my Lexapro is high enough or even getting absorbed totally. Hang in there...it'll get better...you have to work on it. paula

Hey Lisa, How are you feeling? It's been a couple of days since your post..... Honestly, I went thru the same exact thing. I'm usually pretty good natured, but for the first few months, I literally thought the surgery turned me into an @sshole (excuse the swear, but it is the only way to describe myself at ths time). I really thought it was because my body was purging all of my toxins (being addicted to food isn't pretty and then not being able to eat was horrible). Pretty much after month 3, I was feeling better physically and mentally. Now I'm my new and improved self. So, trust me, it WILL get better. Email me if you need a buddy. Love, Tammy