GETTING DISCOURAGED!!!

Kim Hang in there honey... This happened to me...and is still happening. I know I have lost inches--even tho the scale moves like a snail. You body is adjusting to the large amt of weight you have lost already. People have suggested to me... To change up my exercise program Cut out carbs completely-they surprisingly creep back into our lives! log on Fitday.com-so you can see how much you are eating Do not beat yourself up Kim. You have been an inspiration to me and to others...you success will continue!! XO Joanie

Thanks so much Joanie, Coming from you it means alot to me. You have always been my support since I joined OH. You and Kathy mean alot to me. Thank you so much for always being there. I will be ok, I think. It will take time. Hugs KimC

Hi Kim, I don't have any words of wisdom since I have not been there yet but I want you to know that any suppport you need, I am here to help. As everyone has said, hang in there , try a few changes as they have all suggested and I am SURE you will see the scale move. Don't give up!! Hugs, Nancy k

Thanks Nancy, Your such sweetie, I really appreciate your support. And when the time comes I will be there for you too. Hugs KimC

Kimmie, Do not get discourage. We all have those days and this a normal feeling. I am out less time then you but I remember that Dr. barajas told me do not let things like this get to you. You know what you need to do and you have the support around you. We are all proud of you and you are a great role model of what a person who has faith and the belief in themselves. We love you bunches Kimmie. Keep the faith you will get over the hump. Barb

Thanks Barb, I am suppose to be your angel and your turning out to be mine. Thanks so much for the support. Hugs Kim

Please don't take this as a criticism, Kim, you've done so much for all of us here. This flavor of comment comes up frequently on the message boards. I normally don't respond because I don't want to appear as abnoxious or arrogant, but I decided to respond to yours because you've been such as inspiration to all of us. Unlike the others, I can't offer you any sage advice on your dilemma, other than this: with or without gastric bypass, the calories you expend must be greater than the calories you take in to lose weight.. Its simple math. I've been criticized for my exercise regimen, a couple of times at my local support group meeting. Folks say I execrcise too much, I've even been called an over-achiever. That name I can own up to. I've lost 180 lbs and I've been able to keep it off although I have also been on a plateau for two months. I know some folks will say you need to drink more, have more protein, and offer a host of other remedies. Perhaps some of them do work, I'm not knowledgable enough to understand if those methods work or not, and if they are a recipe for keeping the weight off. I only know what has worked for me. Certainly the bypass goes a long way in helping keep the weight off by restricting the amount of food one can eat at a sitting, but there is much more to this than the gastric bypass. It is a total life style change, the surgery just gets one started on the road. Like recovering alcoholics who never escape the desire of alcohol, we will continue to be tempted for the rest of our lives by the forces that brought us to this drastic measure. There's no surgery that cures that. If you want to lose weight, you have to eat less or exercise more. I don't think there's any big mystery about this. I consider my surgical journey done, hopefully. However, my journey of living differently, of eating differently, of choosing more wisely, has only just begun. I'm sure there are a great deal of challenges that I will yet have to face. The surgery has given me a second chance, and I believe it's up to me not to squander it. So sorry I couldn't be more specific or provide a silver bullet that could help you, but I believe there isn't one. --Steve 362/180

Hello Steve, Thank you for being so upfront with me. I appreciate all the wisdom you can give to me. You have been an inspiration to me this past year. Reading your profile and your posts I admire you alot. Thanks so much for helping me when I need it and being so frank about things and not sugar coating it. That I respect you highly for. I will get through this and I know I will succeed, its just alittle scary for me right now knowing my history. I will get past this, I have alot of love and support I know that. Thanks again so much Hugs KimC

I've always been a great dispenser of wisdom, but will I follow my own advice over the long term? I wonder about this each day, and hope I have the will power to practice what I preach. One thing that's always puzzled me is the amount of malabsorbtion caused by the bypass. I wonder if anyone has ever done a study to determine what the rate of malabsorbtion is. For example, we might find that products containing vitamin B are absorbed at a lesser amount than those containing vitamin A. That would give us more information on what products we could could eat more of, and which ones we should eat the least of. What complicates this is that the amount of malabsorbtion probably varies bewteen patients, and as well between the different procedures, Open RNY, Lap RNY, Lab band, Fobi pouch, duodenal switch, etc). That type of information would be very valuable in choosing the correct type of surgery and diet. Perhaps some of this is being done, but I'm not aware of it. This is somewhat disconcerting, because we continue to extoll the success of the surgery without a great deal of evidence to support it. Its the scientist in me - one of my major character flaws. I certainly wish you the best on your journey, I hope we're able to talk in person in the future. Perhaps we can meet at one of the support group meetings and chat. --Steve

Hey Steve, I would love the opportunity of meeting you in the future. You let me know when and I will make time for it. Like I said before I admire you very much and you have been one of my inspirations on this board. Thanks so much Kim