i'm in a state of depression

hi i haven't been on the site in awhile. at this present moment i'm going through a emotional uphill/downhill . i feel that i have come to a hault in my weight loss, my hair is trying to grow but at the same time it's has thinned out. i'm taking my vita-b, i've fallen off my reg eating habit, i find myself snacking on foods that i shouldn't and i be making myself sick and i bring it right back up for awhile i got used to up chucking, but i really don't like it i still feel fat my breast are like torpedos i can't stand them. i went down from a size 28-22 but yet and still i don't feel like i lost any weight. my arms are so flabby and loose, i keep saying that i'm going to the gym but i haven't put an effort into it. i feel like there's no use i'm still going to be fat, i don't like what i see in the mirror.i just want to be happy, my love life is on the rocks that's another issue i'm dealing with. i just feel like a turtle i just want to curl up into a shell and live there and die at times i really need to get myself together.i want my happy life back sometimes i just want to stay home and hybernate and not go to wor****ep asking myself what's wrong with me

Lydia, Im so sorry you are feeling this way I know you dont want to hear that but, too tell you the truth I am sooooooo scared that after my surgery I will continue to feel fat and depressed. I guess if and when that happens to me I will try to think of the good things that have come from surgery. How much have you lost? Can you tell us some of the good things that have happened since your surgery? Clothes you now fit into etc.... Are you going to the WLS picnic on Sat? That might cheer you up..... I hope the clouds lift soon~ Bethany Hoping to have surgery this fall

hi bethany thanks for responding to my post , well i lost over 70# i use to weigh 330, my last weigh in was 259 and that was about a month ago. i no longer take blood pressure meds, my body feels great but i just don't like what i see i was wearing a size 28 in pants and a size 30 in dresses know i;m down to a size 22 in pants and some of my tops are too big, my only problem with my upper body are my breast they are still big and they hang like torpedos, i can't wait to have a reduction because it's much needed but the doc won't do it until i finish loosing the weight in which i understand. you'll be ok the surg was worth it all i don't regret it.

Hi Lydia, I just got your email & sent you a reply. Christine-150

Hi Lydia I'm so sorry you're feeling so down. Just know you're not alone. It takes a long time for our heads to catch up with our bodies. I've heard it can take up to 2-3 years. It is very frustrating I know. I know I am buying smaller clothing, but I still see a heavy person when I look in the mirror. It really freaks me out sometimes. (I've gone from a size 22 to a 4) It's scary because in my mind it makes no sense. I think to myself how can a person who wears a small size look this heavy, but I can't help what I see. I also hate my breasts. They sag down to my waist. I started buying the Victoria Secrets Body By Victoria shaping bras and it has made me feel much better. They are pricey, but oh so worth the money. You can't put a price on feeling good. They go up to a size 42DD and you can always get a bra extender if you need a bigger size around. There was a social worker in New Haven who has had the surgery and suffered from the same issues who spoke at the L&M support meeting one night. He specializes in dealing with WLS patients and is really good. If you want his name and # just email me. Maggie

Lydia, I think you are going through a textbook case of depression. Maggie mentioned the social worker from New Haven who had WLS and does counseling. His name is Mark Gaynor. He's really good. I would suggest at least one visit with him. This is not easy. I think subconsciously we think that WLS is going to be a cure all for all of our issues, but we find out it's not. Hang in, don't give up. You've done so well this far...keep it going...just remember, when you're finished losing weight, plastic surgery is an option...I try not to look at my unclothed body...with clothes, it looks a lot better Good luck, and let us know if we can help. xo JA

Lydia- Nothing is wrong with you! You are totally normal! But, that doesn't mean that you aren't suffering from depression. It's SO very commone for post ops to go through this. Please consider speaking to a counselor or a therapist or your medical professional of choice about how you feel. There is help! Meds can help, so can taling about it with someone objective. PLEASE consider coming to the picnic on Sat. I think we can be a big help to you, in person!! Hang in there hon, you're doing SO well with your loss. Best regards, Lisa C