Mourning Food
What you're going through is normal Robin. It's like losing a friend. You have to go through the stages of mourning before you can move on. It does get easier as the days go on. Down the road you may even find you can have a bite of that chocolate cake and be satisfied with just that.
Don't beat yourself up too hard right now. Your body is adjusting to a lot of changes right now.
Hugs,
Maggie 
Hi Robin,
I know EXACTLY how you are feeling. One year ago on 7/21/04, I had my surgery. My best friend came to stay with me from California. She was eating everything that she couldn't get in California (Pizza, pastry, etc), and I was on a liquid diet and ready to scream! Hang in, it DOES get better...but it feels like pure "hell" when you're going through it. And as Maggie said, you will be able to "taste" some stuff later on.
Good luck!
XO
JA
I am in the process of getting approval for the Lap-band. It is very educational reading these postings. It lets me know what to look forward to after the big day. I, like Maggie, am practicing for the surgery. I am eating very, very slowly, chewing food to mush and limiting my quantity of food. Portion control has always been an issue for me so this is a good thing! I am also trying the 1000 calorie diet (I average around 1200). I have purchased the protein drinks to see which ones I like and which ones I cannot tolerate, and I toast my bread to death. I have lost over 10 pounds just practicing.
I hope the love of food disappears along with the weight, however, I think that goes the way of the miracle pill which allows you to wake up thin!
Good luck to you and I'll be reading to see how you handle other challenges. This will help me a great deal. Thanks for sharing.
Robin,
I still mourn food after 7 months. When I have cravings, I have a small piece and that usually satisfies the urge. Or sometimes a bite off the kids plates.
There was no surgery done on my brain.
I was on a liquid diet on Thanksgiving day, I went to the movies with a pack of sugarless gum, that helped me get through quite a few weeks. Just don't swallow it.
Pam
I mourned food in my first months--- would walk to the kitchen and nostalgically open the refrigerator and cupboards, watch the Food Network the way most people look at home movies and generally lament the loss of my dear old friend. Then, someone asked me (it was actually my father who had founded several drug treatment programs in the 70's) what kind of friend I thought food had been. I realized that food hadn't been a friend, but rather a very jealous mistress-- it lulled me with a quick fix to things that stressed me but never offered any solutions to the underlying problem, it provided some momentary satisfaction but no long term happiness and it certainly was interfering in my relationships with those I loved. It was then that I realized for me that I needed to sever that relationship with food and use it merely as a means of nutrition. Unimaginable before surgery, but I just don't want even tastes of my old trigger foods-- I don't dream about going out on dates with the old girlfriends who burned me and I don't dream about indulging in a hot fudge sundae that had never been a true friend in the first place.
Picture this:
THANKSGIVING was 2 weeks after my surgery. Talk about Mourning!!! I thougut I would die. Just could not believe that I had done this to myself and was terribly WOE IS ME.
In fact, I remember crying while watching Emeril cook during his thanksgiving special.
The only advice I can give you is to keep your mind off of the 'can't haves' and reflect on why this decision is so important and why your health and happiness are so much more important that any food. And, know that eventually, yes, you can have a bite of chocolate cake again. YOur world is not OVER, it's just CHANGING.
Hang in there.
Best wishes,
Lisa C
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