Officially a failure

I am waiting for the day to come when I will feel the same way. Let me tell you my theory and philosophize for a moment. This may sound silly (and probably does), be there also may be some truth to it. The dramatic weight loss we have experienced gives us a new lease on life. It changes the way we look, think about ourselves, and how others look at us. In many cases, our weight loss brings us down to levels we experienced as kids or young adults. In a sense, we're turning back the hands of time. We have more energy, more excitement, and often embark on new adventures. The weight loss gives us new hope for our future, a reawakening of sorts, and it becomes our friend throughout our journey. It dominates what we do and how we live for a year or two, we are consumed worrying about what to eat, getting enough protein, complications from surgery, and exercising. Weight loss becomes our life partner. We look forward to checking the scale daily for more positive progress. Like all good things, this too eventually comes to an end, as someone said, "the honeymoon is over". When it does end, we realize that the phase we went through, the pain, the sickness, the surgeries, are behind us. It becomes time to move on, but we leave behind a friend, something that has preoccupied our life for a long time, and provided us with companionship, satisfaction and comfort. The disappointment you're feeling may be in part due to your loss. Just a theory... --Steve

In your picture you look FAR from fat.... I have realized early on that this is just a temporary reprieve and that very quickly it goes back to the same ole same ole...diet and exercise...after a quick motivating burst of weight loss to get us off the runway..it's really the same ole stuggle it's always been....the responsibility is still right back on my shoulders...so I have to learn the discipline NOW or face more of the same life I had before surgery...I am not even losing that fast WITH surgery in my opinion. I am sure we are not meant to eat 1 or 2 ounces of food for life...in ANY shape or form. There just IS no painless get out of jail free card..I wish there were...I TRULY wish there were. I have read that all surgery does is level the field for us...so that we can diet and exercise like other folks...and get results if we do so. This whole thing is FAR from easy..I empathize and hope you feel better soon. Sher' 272/234/????

Michelle- First off- I apologize for not seeing this post from you until now. I'm sort of MIA sometimes. However, I SINCERELY hope you aren't really giving up the ship. You haven't come this far to just give up. AND, none of us will LET you give up either. So- forget about it. You're discouraged, you're depressed. Guess what?- that's normal. Part of the process. All of us have been there or are on our way through there. Let's look at the big picture- YOU'VE LOST 125 LBS in 10 MONTHS!!! Think about that girl. No- SERIOUSLY- Really think about it. Is that something to be disappointed about? I don't think you really think so. Now, let's regroup and think about what you CAN do, not about what you can't. You CAN control the amount of food you take in with planning and attention. You CAN get more water and water load to control any hunger. You CAN avoid emotional eating, by not even giving yourself the opportunity. And, finally, you CAN incorporate some exercise into your life. (think: parking farther away, taking the stairs, walking the long way around, taking a 10 minute walk on your meal period at work, etc) We're here to help and to vent to, so by all means, please use us for that purpose! You're NOT finished Michelle. Trust me, you're not done unless you WANT to be done. Take some time and wallow a bit if you need to, but then you've got to pull yourself up by the bootstraps and get on track. YOUR TOOL IS STILL THERE. YOU HAVE NOT LOST IT. feel free to email me privately if you want to talk. hugs to you, Lisa