Is it me?

So I went to a bridal shower yesterday and got royally pissed off. Not just cause I remembered past one but because of my hubby's aunt. He has two cousins that have been doing Weigh****chers. One has been wonderfully succesful and the other has done good too. (We are talking the one has lost about 70 and the other has lost about 30.) They started this since their brother is getting married. I was sitting next to the aunt. She looked at the one that has lost the most and told her how wonderful she looked. I was like what am I chopped liver and do I look like **** since I had to go drastic on what tool I used. This is how it has been the whole time. I get pissed when they just gush about the cousins in front of me then don't say a damn word to me. It really hurts. Is it wrong of me to feel this way? I know I should just let it go but it hurts so bad that they ignore me.

Hey Girlie,

No you have every right to feel the way you do.  Hold your head up... I don't know your relationship with your cousins.. however it could be any of the following
Ignorance is bliss mentality
they don't know how to "react" to your tremendous success... so they divert their attention
(OMG you have lost an AMAZING amount of weight.. celebrate that success!)
It's a possibility that they don't know how to approach you to ask questions or give you a compliment?

My suggestion...buy yourself one freakin' HOT dress for the wedding... new shoes.. get the hair/nails done... & go have the TIME OF YOUR LIFE at the wedding.... shake your booty
and CELEBRATE not just the happiness of the couple getting married.. but your new life.. your body moving freely and knowing YOU did the right thing in your own personal WL journey... 

Unfortunately mixed in with those who've supported your decision you'll find those who are jealous, the nay sayers", the sabatogers....When I had my surgery... I started a new job at 3 months out... Rumor was going around I was bulimic/anorexic..... 

Don't let this hiccup set you back dearie.... you've come along way... accomplished much... been through the fire with a few medical setbacks... YOU ARE WOMAN HEAR YOU ROAR....      

Definately validate those feelings... however don't let them consume you... for those family members who chose to disregard your success.. you'll have others that will embrace your lifestyle choice and will continue to love & support you.. .  

Hugs,
Mickey  
 

Thanks! Dress shopping is the week before and I am getting some shoes too. I am thinking about going and getting my nails done too. Then I would have to get them taken off two days later since I can't work with nails. It's not the cousins that bug me. It's the rest of the family since the cousins have been supportive of me.

Probably jealousy, or a pact between them to fall all over themselves and to intentionally leave you out of that...people (even relatives) are like that...or, they think you took the easy way out and because of this, you don't deserve any praise...weird people, ignore them and try to not let it bother you...compliment the heck out of them, (oh, you both look SO fabulous, isn't it great how we've each taken our health into our own hands and have changed for the better..yeah us!!!...and make them look like the a$$es that they are..take the high road.  You'll see in three years who has had the most success and has kept it off...not just for a "wedding"...but for "LIFE"!

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LMAO Have you met them? That sounds just like something they would do too. The cousins and I do compliment each other, it's just the rest of the family.

Kathy...I feel you!  My little sister ... use to be 300+ pounds...she lost her weight the hard way  (aneroxia)...and now is addicted to exercise...but that being said...although she is supportive of me....she is constantly worried about how much I weigh now..because God forbid she weigh less than me....

people don't get it...yes we were given a tool...and WE get that...we also understand that the only way the tool works....is if we work it!  I personally will not lose weight if I don't go to the gym for at least a hour four times a week...and walk the three other days...does being almost 200 pounds lighter feel good....YES ... we both know how good...but is it easy............NO...so be proud of who you are...

and I agree with Mickey and the others....go get that dress...and do your nails.... feel your sucess!

you have done a fabulous job and you deserve to shine!

Thanks!

We are proud of you... HUGS!!!!  the heck with them!

Thanks!