"What are you eating!"

I am so sad right now and I know I shouldnt be. (I am a little hormonal as it is that time of the month.... SORRY GUYS) I was having my lunch and a coworker was sitting near me and said "Beckie, what are you eating!" and I told her and she was like, "You need to watch out... people gte sick from that surgery...blah, blah, blah" I looked at her (heated) and said, "I know what I can eat and how much" and she was shocked because I normally dont stand up for myself. I wanted to tell her to "educate yourself" because she doesnt have the first clue about what we can have and what we cant. I know she cares and is concerned but approach it in a different way. I have been on a plateau and I guess the comment hurt me because I feel like I am not doing well.. (I know that I am but I dont feel it). I made my friend (who has been so awesome through this whole thing) walk with me so I can vent. I told her that I am sick of people watching over my shoulder to see what I put in my mouth. Thanks for giving me time to vent! Beckie

Hi Beckie, Isn't it amazing? People feel they can comment on EVERYTHING we now do, what we eat, how we look, etc. I don't quite understand that mindset, but hey, it is what it is. Ignore the ignorance. You ARE doing a great job, regardless of the silly comments from people who just don't know. Your coworkers sounds like someone who has gotten her WLS education reading articles on Carnie Wilson in People magazine...some information but certainly not enough. As far as a plateau, skip the scale and try on some clothes that are a bit small...you're probably losing inches. Vent away! -Deb

Thanks Deb! Just irks me... then to cry on top of it.. makes me crazy!

Deb My scale has not moved in weeks..despite exercising every day without fail. I bought 2 prs of size 14 pants a couple weeks ago..one pr fit and one didn't. This week I tried on the other pants...and voila-they fit! I am learning not to live by the scale...I know the exercise is working! XOXO Joanie

Hi Beckie! Yep...a lot of people can be a real pill with their phony sweetness and manipulative little ploys/games etc...9 times out of 10 I prefer the company of my dog..she is honest and forthright...I can see these jerks coming from 10 miles away....and I get particularly peeved at the entitlement of some folks to comment on what a large person is eating..wearing or doing...just know that somewhere in that person's life there is a wound or a misery or a conflict..(no one get's a free lunch)...that motivates her to have to comment and attempt to belittle you. In 2 words SCREW HER!!! You are doing a great job and looking good in the neighborhood...consider part of your pay as compensation for putting up with PITA coworkers. Unfortunately..ignorance is alive, well and absolutely EVERYWHERE!!!! Love Thyself! Sher'

Beckie I know that is so frustrating. I think we've all gone through this. As soon as people know you have the surgery I think they expect you to eat a spoonful of birdfood. Good for you for standing up to them. Chin up, you're doing great. Hugs, Maggie

Becky, Just ignore ignorant people like that, I have dealt with them all my life and they have no clue to what we are going through. Everyone things we choose to be overweight and its our own fault. Well damn it, its not. We all need to put our chins up and say we are better than you!! I still get hurt very easy when people say things, or the stares or the ignorance. Its hard not to get upset and vent. I do it alot too. I have only certain people in my life that know me and care and love me for me, all the others out there are phonies or just don't get it. Its ok, your a better person and your doing a wonderful job. You should be very proud of yourself for the decision you made and how great your doing. Keep positive and don't let others get you down. You have your family here on WLS who will always support you. Take care and God Bless Love Kim C

Isnt it awful? I was eating a protein bar and my ususally supportive boss asked...Is that a CANDY BAR? I said No...its a protein bar! I should have said its none of your business! People mean well..but honestly--they are so misinformed...makes me nuts! We cannot not change some people..we can just change how we react to them... Hang in there Beckie! Joanie