Not Sleeping!!

This really stinks! I have not slept in days. I've been so nervous about the surgery. Some of my family is not helping. My Dad for instance. He is so mad I'm doing this. He says it's the easy way out,and there are lots of people who have lost the weight without it. He also keeps telling me how to many people have died from the surgery. He also says my Uncle had the surgery and he's putting a lot of weight back on so that's gonna happen to me too. I try to let it all go in one ear and out the other, but it's hard. I didn't make this decision litely,and it's been a long hard road to get here. My husband is supportive of my decision,yet he doesn't like the fact that there are so many risks. I've been having nightmares the past couple of nights that something is gonna happen. I have my pre-op meeting 2/3, I have to weigh in. I think I've gained some weight back since my last weigh-in. So, I have a lot of work to do before that. Maybe that will help keep my mind off of all the bad stuff. I haven't gone to work out in a while. So, I plan to go to Curves next week, and work out. Hopefully that will help to keep my mind busy and tire me out enough to sleep better. If anything it will help lose the weight and get me in better shape for surgery. Has anyone else dealt with negative family members? It really stinks! I just want all of their support and understanding. Well, take care, and thanks for letting me vent! Christine

Hi Christine I am sorry you did not sleep good. Look This is your body, your decision and your life! Do not please what the people wants for you. You won 't regain back if you stick with your tools ( go support group, keep active on Ct Message Board, keep your food track on Joanie's food log and use your excercise track on my Excercise log and force yourself) Just tell your dad that you did not need negative support and won t be same shoe from your uncle if you stick with yout tools. I don t care what people think of my surgery and this is my life and I am more happier than I was before surgery. You life will change because foods is no longer your best friend anymore and Water will become your new bestfriend. Hang in There . Come back to Ct Message board to vent with all of us Kathy K

Hi Kathy, Thank you for responding. Sorry it took so long to get back to you. It's been a little crazy at my house. My 2 boys are sick, and now I have a cold. My husband hasn't been around to help,cuz he plows at the Airport. So,I've had to be on my toes. I just hope I get better soon. Don't want to push back the surgery. I am definately going through with the surgery. Nothing my Dad or anyone else has to say is gonna stop me. I've worked to hard and I'm not turning back. I can't wait until I can play with my kids and not get out of breath or tired quick. I especially can't wait to go clothes shopping and actually enjoy it! I slept better last night. It was still rough though, it's hard to sleep when my Hubby is not around.LOL Thanks for your support! Christine

Sorry you are not sleeping. That is horrible to deal with. You will get a lot of mixed replies from different people. Anyone that says it is the easy way out isn't very knowledgable about the procedure. You have to do what is best for you and try not to let the negative get to you. (Easier said than done I know) Keeping busy is a great idea. If you continue to have problems sleeping, try taking Benedryll. It helps me. Feel free to vent away as needed. Maggie

Hi Maggi, Your right. It's definately not easy. I havn't had the surgery yet,and it's been a haul just to get where I'm at. Don't worry. He's not gonna get me down. I've worked hard to get where I'm at,and I'm gonna keep working hard. Thank you for your support! Christine

Hi Christine, You're doing this for you and no one else, just remember that. It's funny, because I remember being a little hurt that everyone I knew was sooo suportive of the surgery! I remember thinking, geez, dont' you love me the way I am?! As far as support, you really can count on teh folks on this board. They're very helpful, and have been through it all. Sometimes, some get a little preachy, but you're going to do what you're going to do, so take even the "what are you doings???"" with a grain of salt. As far as weight gain, I'm only a couple months out, so that hasn't been an issue. I do, however, tell myself that I never want to endure this again, and will use the tool given to me with the surgery as it was intended. Good luck, Heather

Hi Heather, It's nice to hear from someone who has the same surgeon. I read some of your profile. I hope things are going better. The complications worry me. I already have a hernia. Dr Barba said he is gonna fix it during the surgery. Can't wait cuz that really bothers me. I'm just glad that my husband supports me. I have friends that support me but, they live in Vermont or they are to absorbed in their own lives. Would love to chat with you on the phone sometime. If that is ok with you? Thank you for your support! Christine