Hello again!

Hi everyone, I'm going to be leaving in a few for the airport. It's my last day in Texas. I'd like to say it was a "vacation", but not really. It was nice for a while. I don't know what it is about this place, but it makes you want to eat like a cow. I've had my fill of Mexican for a little while. On top of it, TOM is here and I feel even more fat and puffy. My step mom asked me what my "goal weight" would be.. and honestly, I don't know. Should I have one specific number? I said "under 200" and my dad said "Well, you won't get that small b/c you're BIG BONED". How does he know I'm big boned? AM I big boned? How do you tell? I'm a little woman.. so I'm just wondering how he came upon this knowledge. Does being fat all of your life make you "big boned"? This kind of discouraged me, like ever wearing a size 8-10 would be out of the question. Once I get home, I'm getting back to basics. Going hardcore on my protein and making sure I'm getting my vitamins like I should be. I definitely need to measure out all of my portions, b/c I feel so guilty after eating these days and I have a feeling I'm eating way too much. I've also read about people out eating the surgery or undoing it.. how does this happen? Would I know if I've done that? I just wish I could still get full on 2 bites of food and let that be the end of it. Anyhow.. enough of the whining. Gotta go home now. Take care everyone! Michelle

Sorry to hear about your frustrations, but I know what you mean. Everytime I tell someone my goal weight (137, 1/2 of my highest and my "ideal" body weight) they tell me it won't happen. If I do get there I will look sickly, too skinny etc.... My mom told me I have always been "buig boned" so I will never get to a size 8/10..... No Mom I have always been FAT!!! I can be any size/weight I want!! Don't pay attention to anyones discouragement. They are probably afraud of seeing you thin and think you will change! Although I have numbers I would like to acheive I won't know until I get closer where I really want to be. When I am happy and weight loss slows, I will go from there. Specific numbers are not neccessary, just know that you will be healthy!!!! Carmen

Michelle- I just re-read your profile you have done so well. Don't anyone tell you that you CAN'T do anything..you can and you will! A little set back...eating more than usual for a couple weeks won't hurt..just get back on track when you get home. I am not sure about this, but I think you can tell the size of your frame from your wrists size. Joanie

Michelle- Ya know...I think that's a thing that people say when we're kids to make us not feel so bad about being fat. But- you know what...for the most part- it's NOT TRUE. I've seen you inperson hon, and I can tell you this...you are NOT big boned. You will be more on the petite side if my guess is right. As far as goal weight...well, some people go by % of excess body weight lost...my original goal weight was based on loosing 70% of my excess body weight. Some people go by BMI and shoot for something in the normal to overweight range instead of the SMo or MO range. You have to choose what you feel most comfortable with. I can just about assure you that at what...4 months...you have not out eaten your surgery. It CAN be done by taking in high calorie liquids and by grazing. But, if you've fallen of the wagon a bit while in TX, there's no reason you can't jump right back on and continue loosing. It sounds like you might be scared to have gained weight while you were away. Have you weighed? It may not be as bad as you think...in fact, sometimes changing our eating patterns HELPS with dropping stubborn weight. Cheer up, K? You're coming home, you're getting with the program and you're moving on, having learned some things. Best, Lisa C

Ahhh, family. Who better to push all those buttons???? You don't need to have a goal number. You'll do the best you can & get the best results. I've seen you -- you didn't look like those bones were all that big to me!! I used to be told by people who thought they were comforting me that I was "big boned," etc. to make up for being fat. There's nothing big boned about me! At the size I'm at now, my wrists are 6" -- so much for the big boned theory. He's probably just used to you having extra weight and that's his theory. You're doing wonderfully. Your body will find it's set point when all is said and done. I was a size 22 a year ago, now I'm a size 12 (hopefully after PS a size 10), and I think that's a pretty decent success. I'd love to be a 6 or 8, but I can't guarantee I'll ever see it, so I'm going to be happy with myself now. Believe me, believe me, believe me, I too long for those days when a couple of spoonfuls of food would fill me up, and bad choices weren't really an option. I'm PMS-ing myself & I could eat anything that walks -- and I'm doing a pretty good job of it!! I do feel guilty, but the next day I gotta get back up on that horse. We're all going to have days when we're not as "compliant" as we should be, but you and I both made the commitment to get this right and you ARE doing it right! And you know what -- when you get down a little more, they're gonna be concerned that you're losing too much!!! It's just the way our families love us -- by driving us nuts!! Cheers! Kathy F.