Feeling really bad

Hi there. I agree with part of what Ann said. Actually, I agree with all of it - except that with Lauren's sister, her yelling, etc. is really unacceptable. It's one thing to be worried and concerned, and it's another thing to be hollered and screamed at. That's just not cool with me, regardless of the situation. I think in the end, it's what YOU can live with that counts. You are the one that has to go thru the post op "diet" for the rest of your life. And only YOU know what's inside. Gotta go with your heart. Love to you all, Tammy

Hi Lauren, sorry to hear your sister giving you such a hard time. Just take things one day at a time and hopefully she will realize her mistake. Everyone has a bad day, maybe she is having problems of her own and unintentionally took it out on you. Just take care of yourself. Heidi

Well she took it one step further and broke my confidence and told my mother I was having the surgery. My mother called me this morning at work to start a fight with me about it. Her first words to me were "Are you out of your mind". I promptly told her I would not discuss it with her. She tried again, I again said, It was not open for discussion with her. Her next tact will be to try and get to me thru my husband who I forwarned that if he does not back me, I will write him off too. As I said at the meeting last night, I have no room in my life right now for negative thinking from people who are uneducated. If you want "permission" to speak into my life about this surgery you have to do your homework on this surgery. You have to come to the meetings, and you have to read a book on it. I will give her a book on Friday when I see her and tell her, if you want to be allowed to talk to me about this and be included in this then you must read this book and then attend a meeting with me, like that mother did yesterday with her daughter. If you want to be "all concerned", then you have to be willing to do the time. Otherwise I dont want to hear a word out of your uneducated mouth. I called my sister up and told her, shes done. I have never been very harsh with my sister, but this warrants it and I plan to hold her feet to the fire on this one. Betrayal is betrayal. She stepped over the line. This calls for much more than an apology. Im not holding my breath. I have a new family now. You guys, everyone else can go scratch. Im too old for this s#$!. Everybody, have a sparkling day, I know I intend to. Blessings Lauren

Lauren, I too had a very similar experience with my sister...you can read it in the beginning of my profile. I know how you feel. The first thing i learned after getting the negative responses was to just drop the subject. If your friends and family members then bring it up to you just be firm and tell them this is not up for debate or discussion and this is a decision you have had to make for yourself, by yourself. PERIOD. I was lucky, eventually my family came around. They saw how my health was failing and they saw how I really was educated on the different surgeries and the pro's and cons. Knowledge is power and obviously your sister has none. Be strong. If you need to chat I am here anytime.(now that i have my computer back, Thank God) Best of Luck to you on your Weight Loss Journey. ~Julie~ Open RNY 8/9/04 -51 lbs.

Julie, Glad your computer is back up and running! Hugs, Joanie