I went to the meeting

I had a wonderfull time. I did have a few questions...to my surprise. There was a lot of chatter...I must have been moody cause I dont think it would have normally bugged me but it did. Maybe its me but I find it rude for people to chatter with each other while someone else is talking to the group. Anyhow with that being said....I am so jelious. Everyone post-op looks fabulious! I know thats just the iceing on the cake but I cant wait to look so good. Again maybe this is just me also but when I came home no one asked how the meeting went. Chad was in a bad mood because Maya was being so wild..I UNDERSTAND THAT, she is turning 2 in a month and is really starting to test whos boss. On the other hand I would have thought that my MIL would have asked but she didnt. I did ask her to join me on July 8th to meet with Dr. Bell and she said she would. I thought that she would be a good choice because she is a nurse and is not really for me having WLS so maybe it could educate her a bit. She thinks it is not worth the risk. She says...FAT PEOPLE SHOULD NOT EAT SO MUCH But you have to understand...that is coming from a woman that is 6 foot tall and maybe 145. SHe has never had a weight issue and LOVES to tell me all the time how thin she is and how she can eat what ever when ever she wants. She has never EVER had to deal with going on a diet. She has never had to lose weight to fit into an outfit. She has no clue what lower back pain feels like. She had never had to worry about fitting on a ride at 6 flags, She doesnt get out of breath walking up the stairs, she never had to fear her child being teased because MOM was so fat, she never had to walk around in a body that was falling apart right before her eyes. She never had to say no to her little girls first Birthday birthday cake because it didnt fit into her Slimfast 900 cal diet. Trust me she is a wonderful lady but has no clue what the other side is like. She thinks that when we go to the Big E and I have to sit and rest every hour or so its because I am lazy. She thinks that when I have hip, leg and back pain its all in my head. WOW I AM GOING TO STOP NOW! Look at all this crap...I must be moody....all I have done all day is complain. Ok I am thinking of something positive to say before everyone thinks Im a crybaby....hmmmmm Oh I know.....I am so glad I went tonight I will do my best to be at everymeeting from now on! Well I have to put myself to bed now..IM CRANKY!! Deanna gave me a book to read called Before and After, I think i will go lay in bed, read for a while and try to fall asleep before Chad gets home from work....that way I can take up the whole bed! He he he I am such a brat! Love Yall Melissa

Hi Melissa, Glad you made it to the meeting, and I have to agree with you, sideline chatter drive me insane. It's so incredible rude. I was at a meeting once and while the leader was asking for people to be quiet and not hold private conversations two women behind me refused to stop chatting about where they were going out afterwards! Some nerve... But anyway, you are far from a crybaby...you're going through a very tumulteous time with a lot of emotions running wild. There will be ups and downs and it's all part of the ride to the end result. When I'm being 'cranky' (you know the REAL word I want to use) I just apologize ahead of time, warn people so they leave me alone and give me a wide berth. After you rip someones face off a few times they get the picture. So, with that being said...whats better than having the whole bed to youself?? -Deb

Melissa, I'm glad we went to the meeting and yes we are sitting up front next time....(well with the more quieter bunch)....it was great meeting all the people we post with and seeing their and everyone else's results...everyone post op looks awesome..i cant wait to be on that other side and losing..lately i feel like sick of food and sick of me being the way i am..but i know at some point i have something to look forward to...well i gotta get to work everyone have a great day deanna

Melissa, I am glad you joined us last evening. My first meeting was last month, and the chatter was driving me crazy too, but last night I was able to block it out. I think most of the chatter is people sharing information, because we are soooo excited to share what we know. It is a great group, and Dr. Bell is the absolute best! I wanted to say last night (but didn't get a chance to) that anyone who is considing not going to Dr. Bell should think twice. I know there was a lady talking about St. Raphael's. I went there about 3 yrs ago for a consult. It was ridiculous. You had to go on a fasting diet and then go in to be tested before they would consider you! If any of us could follow a diet, would we need the surgery? Anyway, good luck, and keep plugging along! JA