Dontcha Just Love People & Their Opinions?

Allow me to vent on something many of you may sympathize with. I went downstairs for lunch this afternoon. The morning was rough -- they're putting in place plans to move our dept. to Charlotte, NC -- so I sat down with a group of people I've sat with for some time now. I had gotten a small salad & a hard boiled egg for lunch, saying that due to PMS and stress my eating had been horrible the last week, so I needed to get back on the healthy bandwagon. Janet, whose husband has had the surgery but who is still pretty uppity, says to me well how much have you lost, because you're "still a hefty girl," but you're a lot better than you were before. Excuse me? I've gone from 252 lbs. to just over 170 lbs., and I carry my weight pretty well. Most everyone is very supportive and complimentary, but that comment was such a slap in the face! I suppose I should have said your hair is 20 years out of style, but it's better than being bald! Anyway, people are strange. Hope she gains a pound this week Best wishes, Kathy F.

keep your head up Kathy, people who make such comments are feeling insecure in their own lives and to try to make theirselves feel better, they put others down...you're doing great and you'll slip from time to time, but you CAN do it... keep the faith paulette

Acckk...sorry you had to experience her nastiness. You have made quite an accomplishment and you have every right to be proud of it. Being overweight I have had a few nasties thrown my way and the best way that I have learned to deal with it is to tell that what they said was totally unappropriate, hurtful and unsensitive. I say it in a totally calm manner and the person is usually so ashamed that they turn red and apologize. I am proud of you Kathy!

You don't want to hear what my coment to that person would be! I think you are doing great, I can't wait till I'm 170!! My mom went to bingo a few weeks ago & got a donut, just one, and some guy said to her, "You're kind of chubby, you shouldn't be eating that." I told her it was I good thing I wasn't with her cause she would probably never be allowed there again. I have a big mouth & find it hare to keep it shut sometimes! Some people are ! Christine

Hi Kathy, I agree with Paulette, people who say that are masking their own insecurities . They say that "Illconfident" (if that's a word) people say demeaning things to others to inflate their own egos, because they don't have as much going for them. She may be worried too that her loved one won't be as successful as you were, and my goodness, look how far you've come! Don't let someone else's anger, frustration and bad feelings get YOU down. You're on the best road to health and personal happiness-stick with it! Anne

Kathy, Don't you just love "those types!" I was in one of our offices right before surgery and the woman said, "No, you weren't the manager who helped me before, but she did look like you. You know,...a BIG GIRL." What in the world makes people think that they can say something that insensative and not think they're going to hurt someone. Hang in there, Kathy. I'm a new loser and you're a HUGE insparation to me!! Take Care, Dee

Kathy, You are doing wonderful and don't let those stupid, insensitive people get you down. I had my surgery last Wed and when I told a "friend" on the phone saturday her reply was oh wonderful, I thought you were going to have a stroke you were so heavy. Here I am finally sharing my weight loss surgery to my so called friends ****pt it to myself except for a very select few so i didn't have to hear all the opinions) and I get slapped in the face. She told me that her and her husband have been so worried about me and all the health issues I could have. I wanted to say thanks for the support but instead she is just off my list of friends! The point to my long winded response, smile when you see them because you are doing great and no one can knock you down. Keep up the good work and stay on track! Robin T

Hi Kathy, I think everyone deals with an ignorant comment like that sooner or later. I had a guy at work ask me how I lost my weight. Not liking this mna I told him "dedication and hard work". Not a lie! His response almost knocked me over..."Oh, I assumed you had the surgery that really, really fat people have". I just stred for a few seconds, shocked, and admitted what I did, hoping he's be embarrassed. nope, didn't phase this no-mind at all. Some people. Just be happy you are not one of them. -Deb

Well there are so many idiots in this world....if idiots could fly, the world would be one big airport! I, too, have had my share of rude remarks. I had a nasty woman at work refer to me as a fat f****n b***h!! Yes at 40somethin' I had to deal with grammar school nonsense. The bottom line Kathy is, you did it and don't let those jealous fools get you down...and you do look great!!!! JA

Thank you ladies for your unfailing support. It's such a wonderful place to come, this support page, and feel the ... well ... support!! I find it interesting the way things change as you lose the weight. Men who wouldn't otherwise notice are friendlier (I got my first wolf call last week!), but women -- the ones who are less secure, clearly -- are not as supportive now. I had another woman in the office today telling me how great I looked and asked what size I wore. When I said "14," she looked shocked and said, "I wear a 14!" She quickly countered with, "but I can wear 12s." I don't care!! I don't look anything like you & I don't feel any competition with you, so whatever issue you have is all yours!! Enough moaning ... you would think it was that time of the month or something Thanks again for the good words. I can't express my gratitude. XO Kathy F.