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I had a HORRIBLE weekend. (well parts of it at least!!!) My DH, son and I went to MA. for the weekend. My nephew was getting baptised and we were the godparents. At the party afterwards a family member asked me if I was pregnant IN FRONT OF EVERYONE!!!! I just wanted to die. (no-I am not pg) What is wrong with people. I can not wait for surgery so I can loose weight. Just wait until the next time they see me. OH...and my sister in law just had to add "remember those stores in the mall 5-7-9?" Like us big girls could ever shop there!!! (She is overweight) I hate being lumped in to ANY group. I could not wait to get out of there. Why do people think it is acceptable to comment on other peoples weight? Just needed to vent. I am still burning mad. Chryssie

Chryssie, Sorry that happened to you especially when you are so close to changing your life. People don't think when they talk and it is a shame because they have no idea how they hurt others especially ones that they love. You do need to vent and this is da place!! Just keep thinking to yourself that things will get better, you might not be able to change the verbal diahrea (sp?) but you will change how you feel. Keep smiling...... Linda

Chryssie, I understand what all that is like! I had my husband's family always after me to do this 'NEW DIET" or you "really need to do something about your weight" comments! Then there was MY FAMILY... Your face is so pretty! You just need to do SOMETHING about that weight! Are you preagnant again? And the darnedest thing is, they mean well! Doesn't matter that they are making the hole in your heart that much bigger! I had the gbs (lapriscopically) on 11/19/2003 and it was the best thing I have ever done for ME! I am down 70 pounds from my most heavy and 62 pounds since surgery! But the biggest changes are ... I am down from a size 22( 24 on a bad week) to a tight size 10 this weekend!!! Just in time for my 38th birthday! the other major change is the fact that I enjoy exercise! Of all things!!!! I love to walk. I love to go to the gym and get the works from my personal trainer! Also I love all the energy I now have, I even took a Part time job ( to help pay for the trainer) to help with the excess energy, I was driving everyone here a little crazy. They were use to the couch potato. I swear, there are complete years that I have slept thru! I use to sleep all the time, could sleep 24/7 get up for a few hours then do it again! Sooo Hang in there! It sounds like you have made the hard decision! It will get better, and some days it will be really hard! But I am finding the better, out way the bad. Best of luck to you on you weight loss journey...

Chryssie, Umm, I've had that pregnancy question asked of me, and I'm a GUY! Listen to what ole Jack Burton "of The Porkchop Express" has to say about this, they can "Talk to the hand, and shut the h__l up!" Well maybe that's harsh, but, uh, after my weekend (still, I work 4 10's) it's less brutal than my thoughts of late! (see last rollcall) The important thing is this, WE are doing this thing, this new journey in life, and no one will understand any of it. The feelings of pain, sorrow, rejection, predjudice, worthlessness, on and on, are things WE can all relate to. We are now on that path of change! Hurray! Chryssie, when I lose after surgery, and you see me and say "hey, looking good!" it will mean more coming from you than coming from any of the insensitive, persons who have known me for a long time, family included, I'm sorry to say. Ok, enough of this, I need to get back to feeling sorry for myself. just kiddin! As usual, a book of a post. Maybe I should be a writer instead of a computer geek. Have a nice day! MikeMc

I totally agree with Mike. I strongly believe that weight prejudice is rampant in this country. When you have shows like "The Swan" where women who, to me, look lovely. are complaining about being overweight. Speaking of that It just makes my blood boil when I hear someone who is 10, 20, 30 lbs overweight and they say they look hideous or they are huge. POPPY****!!! I SAY! It blows my mind. Especially when unintentionally they say it in my presence. I look at them in utter befuddlement thinking "Did you actually say that you think you look huge?" YOU WEIGH 300lbs less than I do!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Grrrrrrrrrrr. OK, Sorry! Had to vent too. I'm cooling down now. Chryssie, I dont know how many times over the years as I was struggling and doing everything possible to lose weight, a family member, a friend, some friggin stranger, would pull me aside, and tell me Do this, do that, you really should do something. I love children. I hope to have a child someday (One big reason why I am doing the surgery) But in their wonderful innocense they can be unwittingly very cruel. That just kills me emotionally. BUT, we are all making efforts to make the changes in our lives that will put this all behind us. Lets focus on the positive... Think toward the future! Forget about these things. God Bless, Jim

I think it's so funny what Jim said because I feel the same way. This twig will be telling me how FAT she is and I'm like, "if you think you're fat, what do you think of me?" I've actually had people say to me, "Oh, you're not THAT fat"- "Gee, Thanks!" Some thin people are just morons!!! Christine

Thank you all for your words of wisdom. I was away on business and just got back today. It was wonderful to read all your kind and inspirational words. It is so great that there is a place where people really "get you". Thanks and best wishes to all. Chryssie