NOBODY UNDERSTANDS THIS!@!@

Hello Everybody, I told one of my good deaf friends about my planning to go for this surgery. her reply was " Of course I wouldn 't choose that method but if that is what you want but just remember it is life time thing once that stoamch is stapled you will be able to eat much and will be very sorry after this surgery. " Hey everybody she did have cochlear implant surgery to help her hear better sounds like I did. She do not understand this andhow struggle I went through many years. I decided to not share to nobody until they noticed my happiness and look bettter. Thank you for lsitening this Kathy K. of waterford

Hi Kathy, I think that many people are simply not able to understand why some of use Need to do this. Your best bet may be to confide in the people here on this message board, because we are all aware of the lifestyle change it involves and we all know that it is a serious decision. But it surely does hurt when a friend just does not understand you. Hang in there and maybe try to realize that our friends are just very concerned about us. All the best, Linda.

It's tough for people to understand that FOOD doesn't have to be the center of life, in order for you to be happy. SOOOO many people think that we will be miserable 'because we can't eat', as they see it. They couldn't be more wrong. One of my husband's main concerns was about my eating after surgery. He was concerned that I wou;dn't enjoy food ever again. (I could have cared LESS!) We never really agreed about that not being important, but he accepted that it was my issue, not his. My advice- if you don't feel like arguing, then just tell the closest of family and friends. Only those who NEED to be told. It's YOUR decision, not theirs. Some people will NEVER understand your reasons. That's OK, as long as you're comfortable and happy with your decision.

Hi Kathy, You are correct - people (especially thin ones) don't understand what we go through. That is why support systems are so very important. I only told my husband, my daughter and my sister prior to surgery. I didn't even tell my mother until the day after my surgery (she would not have been supportive). You are fortunate that your mom is supportive - that will be a help to you, and we are all here for you as well. Don't let the negative remarks get you down - you know what is best for you and how you feel on a daily basis. God Bless, Kathy Bilodeau

We all understand! My husband's best friend asked him "how he could let me go ahead with such a dangerous surgery! My poor husband, everyone would have blamed him if something had happened to me! It was my choice, and he agreed that if I wanted to be healthy and live longer and more comfortably I needed this. And let's face it, obesity is the worse prejudice in the world.

Kathy K. Our friends/family all tend to think they know the answers for us. And they certainly don't want us to be put in harm's way. THAT BEING SAID, you are the person who's fought the weight battle and you're the person who is concerned about your health, and are educated about the benefits and risks that go along with surgery. So many people see a segment on a TV show or read an article, and they come to the conclusion that's it's horribly risky. Well, it's also horribly risky to be morbidly obese! You've made a brave decision, and you'll be great. Keep up your great attitude & keep looking for support on the board. Everyone is so helpful! Good luck!! Kathy Felker of Bridgeport

Hey everybody, Thank you for all of your Supports Kathy K.

I totally understand where you are coming from. I am still at a pretty young age (23) and I thought my biggest problem would be telling my friends. I didn't want everyone to think this was my easy way out. Because I don't expect this to easy in the least bit. As it turned out my friends were the most understanding of everyone. They are behinde me 100%. I am so grateful to have them around. On the flip side, I have found my co-workers to be less supportive. It was a big choice for me to tell them about it and I honestly do regret opening up to them. All that really matters is that you do have some sort of support group. Who cares about everyone else as long as you believe in yourself. Good Luck!