Feeling discouraged

I have had a couple difficult days and it has had me very discouraged. I guess I am just looking for a place that I feel comfortable being honest. I have rheumatoid arthritis and have been having a major flare these past few days. I have not had a flare like this in almost a year. I have been able to make it through my school day but by the time I get home I am in so much pain I just need to lay down. I have no energy at all and I am in pain all over. So there fore there has been no exercising. I guess the biggest reason I am feeling discouraged is that I had the WLS being the cure all for all my health problems. Nice little dream world right? So this is just a wake up call saying that the other issues still exist. My weight loss has been very slow also. I keep trying to avoid the scale but I'm still checking every day and that's not helping matters. I hate to sound like a cry baby but I'm just feeling so down today. I need a pick me up.

Oh Carolyn! A big hug goes out to you. Honey, you are so newly post-op, you're bound to have some miserable times. Remember, that it's normal. I don't think you should be overly discouraged with the arthritis. You've got a long way to go yet before you decide if the surgery will effect this positively. It can't fix everything, and it can't fix everything right away either. Hang in there. Be patient. (I know it's hard) Try to do something for yourself to reward your success so far. You deserve it- go be good to yourself. That could be just the pick me up you need. Maybe a massage or a facial or even just a manicure. Whatever it is, take some time for yourself, take a deep breath and realize, your journey has just begun and you're well on your way to success. P.S. If you can't stay off the scale, throw it out or have someone hide it for you. The scale is your worst enemy when you're already feeling down. Weigh no more than 1x a week! At this stage I'd recommend 1x every 2 weeks. Big hugs, Lisa C

HI CAROLYN. IAM GOING TO TO HAVE MY SURGERY IN MARCH IAM STILL IN THE PRE-OP PHASE OF IT ALL. BUT KEEP UP THE FAITH IT WILL COME OFF. SANDRA BYXBEE

((((Carolyn)))) I hate that your RA is giving you a rough time of it. I have MS, and saw my neuro yesterday. He told me that the surgery may cause a flare. So it's probably the same for you, since they are both autoimmune diseases. Keep your chin up. And throw that scale out the window if need be. Or, you can bring it to the support group meeting next week & have someone else "adopt" it temporarily. I have an echocardiogram & stress test scheduled for the same time as the meeting, so unless I get out early, I won't see you. I'm feeling kind of weird because my PCP just called. The results of my Gallbladder ultrasound are in and I have 2 cysts on my liver. She said not to worry, but, well, I can't help but worry. Anyway, I hate to sound corny, but we didn't gain all these pounds in a few weeks, and it's going to take more than a few weeks to lose them. Particularly for those of us with other health issues that prevent regular exercise. Do you want to slap me now? As I re-read this, I think I want to slap myself, lol! Hope you're feeling better soon. And hope to see you next week. Teresa

Dear Carolyn Please do like Lisa say, find a way to treat your self to something nice. If it can be of any comfort to you, my arthritis has gotten better lately...part of it has to do with the strenght training and aqua sise I do but certainly a big part has to do with weightloss. If you keep doing the right thing, you will loose...many of us seams to loose more doing one week in the month than the rest of the time...you will see the scale will move again. If you have come this far, you can make it the rest of the way!! Hugs from Tove