O/T- H has a STALKER!!!!

A 19 year old girl has been hitting on my husband at his gym and she just sent this email to him yesterday..... Hi Mr. Cptprkchp, I hope you don't mind that I was able to find out your name (not telling you how though). I'm not sure if you remember me, we met at (the gym) this summer in (town of gym)? I'm not sure if "met" is exactly the right word, since about the only thing you kept saying to me was that you loved your wife and you were very happily married. However, I'm more comfortable talking on the computer, so here goes: You may remember how I told you about how my psychic told me that I MUST get to know you? Well, she continued to say that a few more times afterwards when I went to see her. Now I know that you say that you are happily married, and I'm assuming that your wife is the Mrs. Purple Catfish on your friend list? She is quite beautiful I must admit. But if you are not 100% happy, I just want to let you know that (I can't believe I'm even going to say this, I know girls say that they never do things like this, but I REALLY don't) you can contact me on MySpace anytime you want to (it's the only reason I even set up the account). I am not around town anymore as I have gone back to school at (her college). You could come down here and visit me and your wife will never have to know about it (again, can't believe I'm actually saying this). I promise I will never tell her (why would I?). We can have just a purely physical relationship if you want to (can't believe saying again), or maybe we can find out if my psychic is right and we really are "soulmates". Anyway, I just wouldn't have been able to live with myself if I never told you all this, and I could never have said all this in person. I'll leave the next move to you (I'm guessing from the way you talked about how much you loved your wife you will probably tell her all this and she will come to school looking to beat me up?). If I don't hear from you, I won't bother you anymore. I just had to be honest and let you know how I was feeling. I hope to hear from you soon. Bye, Crazy Stalker PS: You might be the hottest guy in the world. I LOVE your MySpace picture. I never saw you dressed up like that. WOW!!!  He told me about here right from the get-go.  As soon as he got her email he gave it tome.  Here is my response to her....   Hello Crazy Stalker Person, This is Mr. Cptprkchp's wife, Cptprkchp. I didn't think you would open an email from my account so I am sending it from his. Mr. C and myself do not appreciate the disrespect you have shown both of us. As you said yourself, all he ever talked about was how happy he was in our marriage and how he loves his wife. I have known about you since you asked him to go for coffee the first time. He has asked me on several occasions to intervene on his behalf and I didn't, foolishly believing that you would eventually go away. I am not so far removed from 19 that I don't remember what it's like and how you want to set the world on fire but to sexually proposition a married man who has told you repeatedly that he is not interested is really crossing the line. From your email, you seem like a bright, articulate young lady with lots of promise. No man is worth "just" a physical relationship. You really do deserve better than just being some man's sex toy. As for your psychic, well, I just don't even know what to say about that. That's just crazy talk. I am not going to come to (your college) to "beat you up" or anything foolish like that. I am firmly requesting that you leave my husband alone and move on. He is not interested in you or any other woman, for that matter, and both of us would appreciate it if you took what was left of your dignity and put your substantial energy towards someone or something else. Thank you Cptprkchp What I am asking for is feedback.  What next?  What would you do?  Help!!!  This is strange.

Wow, I do not know you and from your picture you look young, but I got to tell you this,  YOU ARE A WISE OLD SOUL.  Dont take that the wrong way.  It means that you have your feet on the ground and great insight into who you are, where you and your husband stand, and still have the ability to see what she is going through. 

I thought your response to her was way more mature than I could ever do myself and I probably have over 20 years on you.  I would however, block her from his account so this doesnt become a serious stalker problem.  I do thing she is mortified at this point and will stop the madness. Kudos to you Tee

Thanks so much for the kind words.  I am 33 and my husband is 36.  We have been together for 11 years are as thick as thieves.  DH actually just lost 80lbs himself (not with surgery) and looks great, if I do say so myself, and this is an issue that has been popping up with both of us lately.  He is not so mature about it!!! LOL!!!

Hi, It's great to see a man that didn't "run with" the temptation!  It takes one heck of a strong relationship, that's for sure...and cudos to you both!   I know that some, after losing a lot of weight, like to "test the waters" to see if they still "have it in them"...or transfer one addiction to another and use sex as their new addiction. As for the little college girl...I'd say, why does your husband have to have a myspace page?   To me, that's just inviting more trouble along the way.  (Just my opinion) If the girl contacts again, threaten her with legal action, a restraining order, etc. if she continues. I think you handled it well.  Now your husband has to do the same and tell her in big caps...NO WAY, GO AWAY! You're right....she's degrading herself as a woman to just want a physical relationship.  She obviously has some issues that makes her feel like she has to devalue herself. Paula

Hello Paula!! I can't let sweetie take the blame for the myspace page.  I have one and got sick of all the random emails from men so I made him put up a profile showing his pic so it would be more evident that I am married.  He HATES myspace and tries to bribe me all the time to take my page down. As for the college chick, he has told her all summer to stay the hell away from him.  He even asked me to step in at one point and I didn't because I really thought she would just go away.  THAT was dumb. I always enjoy your insight

This is a joke right? I mean no one is this crazy are they? Sheesh. Anyway, Ya did good with the response. I myself would have been telling her off in the first draft but would have ended up with like a fifth draft to send her. Personally I would have been like WOOHOO my man wa**** on by a 19y.o. the first time it happened but then gottened annoyed as she kept it up. What a psycho.

I wi**** was a joke.  She REALLY is that nuts.  At first, I was teasing him about her, until she sent the email.  We will both be taking down the myspace pages.  Sweetie is very happy about that.

I admire you and your husband. Personally, I would have had your husband send her an email in big caps saying.....NOT INTERESTED...Thanks for you attention to this matter! Reasoning with a 19-year old wack job isn't worth it.   Take all the emails you have recevied and sent....and take them to your town's police station and ask them for advice.   I know it maybe difficult, but the last thing you need is some nut job who may snap and turn out to be worse than you could imagine. She is probably still living in her "High School" world where you can get away with this type of thing and it would be construde as just a Hight Schooler with a crush.    Once you hit a certain age and become an "adult" it is no longer a crush but a true crime to pursue someone who has said NO.   Please don't let you or your husband or family become another statistic. This may sound dramatic, but it is all too true.   Please keep in touch. Hugs Michele.