I don't know if I can do this.

I am stressing a little right now. I went in and saw Liz yesterday and she has me on a 1200 cal diet. Holy cow I won't be eating a dang thing with this. I know I will be eating even less after surgery but then I will have a pouch and the pouch will be happy with a little food. Plus I got enough for a gym membership for a year from my grad party plus some left over to put back for some clothes when I need to get some. I was told sweats are a lifesaver cause you just keep tieing the string. LOL Anyway the sdh said that I couldn't join since we don't have the money and when I found the money from another source he still wont let me. He said he doesn't want me out that late. I need to work out and I know me. I wont be motivated unless I have someone going with me and I have friends to go with me after work to go. He wants me to walk here at home and get a video and work out here. I know me and it wont work. Little does he know I have to do what is best for me and so I will, once again, go against his wishes and join the gym tonight.

Hi,  It is stressful!!!  Just take a deep breath and figure it out one meal at a time. This is a good time to start making the good habits that you will need as post op.  Which gym are you thinking about?  I go every morning around 5.... Tracy

sorry for being naive....but what is an sdh???

Well, in computer speak, dh means "dear husband"....I think that the "s" is an expletive!!! Paula

I know it gets hard, and it must be SO frustrating when your partner isn't in agreement with it.

Since when is America NOT a free country???  And when do you listen to your husband?? He doesn't own you...You're a professional now....and you'll be thinner and be able to find a fantastic job.  Maybe you'll be able to make some firm decisions about your family life...make some ultimates!  Shape up or ship out! Work hard and get out from living with the parent.  That is not good for a marriage, either. Know that he's already insecure about your losing weight and exercising and feels threatened by your growing independence...he's going to rebel.  If you care about him at all, explain to him that you're not going anywhere...if he doesn't stop the jealousy.  That jealousy will drive a person in an instant. Maybe once I move, we can get together and walk.  I'll be living right near Northwest Park in Windsor which has some awesome walking trails along the river.  That would be fun for both of us and I need the buddy and you'll need the support...I can't STAND jealous people.  Makes me want to slap them upside the head and say, I'm HERE AREN'T I??? STOP IT! Join that gym...you go and get healthy...**** on him!   Tell him he can come by and watch you work out, it that'll make him feel better...but, join. You earned it and if that is what you want, do it. I know that walking has always been great for me (brisk walking) and the weight will fall off. Don't be intimidated by your visits with Liz.  She's very abrasive at times and just is into her work.   Know that this is a baby steps process and takes some patience.  Hang in there and you'll do great!  Sometimes we just want it to all be over already...but, tomorrow comes at the same time as yesterday did...no racing the clock!  You'll get there!  AND YOU CAN AND WILL DO IT!!!!!!!!! YOU GO GIRLFRIEND...YOU'RE AWESOME! Paula

Hey Kath...you know...If you can admit that you screwed up with that first food log, re-schedule your appt. and start all over again, then I think you have the commitment in you to follow the 1200 cal.......I know how hard it is....when I went through the nutrition part of all of my diet programs, I learned that protein has the staying power and will keep you satisfied....which is also what we have to focus on AFTER the surgery.....load your plates with bulky veggies and get yourself some good sources of PROTEIN!!  It also keeps your blood sugar at an even 'keel' and doesn't make your insulin spike like simple carbs......keep up with your fluids.....and you know, exercise helps reduce appetite.....you'll get there......if you want any sugguestions, or want to talk it out about sdh...pm me.....I'll do everything I can to help you out!!!  huggs, laura

hi kathy,  just follow your heart, do what you have to do for yourself!  p.s. will you be attending the next meeting at middlesex hospital june 11th? maybe ill see you there :)

I joined Planet Fitness in Newington so I can work out after work. I went last night ant did 10 minutes, .25 miles.not bad for a start. What else do I have to say... SDH is Stupid Dear Hubby. Oh yeah, I work nights and I got my 3 meetings in so I won't be at the one on the 11th. I am on the 25th but since we are coming back from vacay that day and it's my b-day I doubt I will be there then too, but I might. I think that's all the responses. If I forgot one I am sorry