Lots of views and few posts

Here is my $.02    Hope everyone is doing well.  Thank you Paula for posting this.  I agree... I used to have a ton of fun on the boards and I have found that many have left or just lurk for one reason or another.  I am guilty too. 

I'm one of those that has been lurking around reading but not post much of late... work has been busy and the little time i have has been to just read, but will try to get a litlte more active :)

Paula: Good post.  I was scared off after my first post because someone answered my question in a way that left me feeling bad.  Not what one wants from a support board!  I'm back because I just got insurance approval and will have my lapband done by Dr. A on June 18.  I know I'll get great support and helpful answers from the CT Board. Lynn

It's a shame that people are afraid to post because of other people's cruelty.  I know when I found this site, it was a god send for me.  A wealth of learning and sister/brother-hood. I just hope that this board gets going again.... Maybe we'll just kick off the ones that are nasty.  Just ignore them and they'll go away. Good luck on your lap band!  Dr A is the best! (in my opinion)..I've lost 135lbs w/ the bypass and couldn't be happier with it or his care... Paula

The thing is Paula - that what you might find completely acceptable someone else might get completely offended by - after years of being on the computer and going to school online I've learned that although we remove a lot of bias by having strictly the written word, we lose body language, voice intonation, facial expression and the general "energy" a person emits..... The bottom line is, if someone directly attacks - that is wrong and not acceptable. If someone "sounds" abrasive or has a different opinion, then we all have to have a thick skin.  If someone makes an uneducated statement that they believe is their truth then we need to educate each other instead of getting angry.  Actually there is another bottom line - we need to always try to figure out what the intention is behind the words - if a person is intending to be mean and nasty that's one thing - but if their intention is from the heart to reach out and help someone else - that is a good thing and miscommunucation can always be fixed. I feel bad that one person left here because another said something that wasn't  true - now the person who said the uneducated statement had good intentions  - but - oh well you know how it goes! Anyway - I lurked on here for a long time before I posted and the person who stands out in my mind the most is Julio - I always loved reading his posts - I think when I first started reading he was really into his Magic Bullet - I went out and bought one based on his reviews!!  I also remember another woman named Tammy posting - she pops in from time to time still - I remember being so inspired by her how she ended up actually teaching exercise classes!! Okay - so I'm ramblig and avoiding my homework -I really don't want to write a 30 page paper on the tests and measurements of gifted children.............Oy - what I am thinking going for another degree - I must be crazy

Just remember you said it Tammy not us. So if we ever call you crazy you can't get too mad at us.  

Well - it will all depend on your intention when you say it!

What picnic are you guys talking about?   And hi...I am new to the CT board.

Hi Angeline, Every year, the people here on the CT OH site gather at Hammonassett State Park Beach for a gathering... I don't have the info right at hand, but will post and ask for someone to post the info, again. paula