Has anyone...

Question for all you post-ops... Have anyone close to you ever made you feel badly about your weight loss? I have a sister that recently decided to tell me just how she felt about my WLS. I was in shock but I think I figured out her method to her madness. She recently told me that I "walk around like I am on a runway." She also let me know that I walk around with my "nose in the air." I really tried to process her comments to come up with a reason for her hurtful words. The only reason I can think of is this: Prior to WLS I was a wall flower. I walked around with my head down always looking at the foor and always trying to avoid making eye contact. Honestly, after losing 261 pounds I feel like I have every right to walk around with my head held high! I am still the same person on the inside-(except for my new pouch) that part has not changed. So, my question is this: how do you deal with negative comments from friends/family? Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks!

hi christine, i get those from a couple of friends,,guess what,they are jealous that for once,i am getting the attention,,hold that head up and strut lady,you deserve it..go get em.....take care,,cyndee

Christine, You do have every right to be proud of your weight loss and should be holding your head high. I feel some people are jealous of the success we have obtained and just say stupid things. I just ignore them. Sher

Thanks ladies- I really needed to hear some words of encouragement! Have a great day!

Hey Christine! Been away doing NanaBanana duty with my newest grandson Seamus these past 2 weeks. But I MUST share here. I gained so much confidence after losing my weight. I began to walk prouder... speak my mind louder (not in an offensive way) and generally feel ok about myself out there "in the world". Some folks embraced that and joyfully celebrated that new freedom I was experiencing. Others? hmmm...NOT. It is intimidating to some, to the point of their not being very kind. And, may I say, turning it around to appear as if it is MY problem... when in reality.. it is their own problem. Who knows what it may be triggering in them (your sister, for example). In the past, when I saw a person who was full of life and living freely, it pained me to witness. I SO wanted to be that way, but felt so many conflicting emotions, mostly those of not feeling worthy. So your proud new-found freedom may be a reminder to her of what she wants to do but cannot. It could be stirring up all sorts of stuff that she just does not want to address. And what better way to not tend to one's stuff but to turn it around on somebody else. All may be psycho-babble... but my take on it. for you? YOU WALK PROUD AND TALL GIRLY GIRL! You so deserve it. I remember the night I met you at the seminar. I could see in you a fierce life force. You now have the opportunity to live your dreams! And what does Mary Z say? IF we don't change we are surely to go back to eating as we knew it. You are changing. BRAVO TO YOU! And may I say? Your photo looks amazing! T.

Christine, What did you say to her once you put your thoughts together? I would have said, "You know how big I was, you should know that I felt horribly about myself...You KNOW I worked VERY hard to get almost 300 lbs off of my body and YOU have the NERVE to chastize me??? SHAME ON YOU" That's what I would have said. Why are people SO jealous when they should celebrate our successes? Sisters can be that way. Though I've not had any negative feedback or comments, I know it's out there. The people that have "yet" to say anything at all to me makes me know that they have "their" own opinion on what I did and how much I lost. Scr*w em I say...jealousy rears its ugly head in times like these...it's when the true colors of people come out.. I'd like to hear what else your sister said to you after what you said to her. If she can't realize and rejoice with you, tell her to keep her feelings and comments to herself. Shame on her... Paula

What Paula said. LMAO. Exactly Paula- perfect.

hi, chris you go gril i would think i was a queen if i did what you did ther is most likey some jeasous ther because you have become more alive dont let anyone make you feel bad about youre wt loss you did it for your self and god bless you great job deb c

Hi everybody...I'm am brand new and this is my very first post..my name is Laura..I currently am contemplating WLS...have appt on March 12 at the hospital for the initial orientation....I must say ....I absolutely love this website....ANYWAY....my neighbor...a very good friend of mine had WLS about 3 years ago....she lost about 90 lbs or so....she was a big girl...and now isn't....I just felt 'wierd' around her...it wasn't jealousy....it wasn't her....it was me....deep down I knew she was the same person on the inside....it just took a bit of getting used to......it is very hard to explain....and probably a flaw in my personality that I need to work on.....but some people just need a bit of time....it does heal all wounds....or in some cases wounds all heals..........thanks for listening to my 2 1/2 cents!!