Off handed compliments

Hello Everyone, Well I've had some interesting comments come at my way recently that I thought I'd share with you all. It's funny when I was at 280 pounds I didn't get responses as I am now...probably because of the stigma that obesity brings with it and people treating you like you're invisible. Now people are more "open" to stating what is on their mind concerning my appearance. Here's just a few that I've encountered over the past 2 weeks since I've returned to work and am getting out & about more socially. "Don't lose any more weight you're TOO thin! (I'm weighing in any where between 146 - 152 depending on the scale) but look like I weight 130 - 135 from working out and my body structure. "Is everything ok...you're looking "gaunt" are you eating?" "If you turned sideways and open your mouth you would be a needle" OK that one I cracked up at. "Girlie...you are RAIL thin...I hope you're not planning on losing more weight" (IT was even hinted that I was trying to be Nichole Ritchie...c'mon now...really) "OMG Mick....you have an A**!! This comment came last week when I returned to work for a few hours a day. My "bumper" had some lipo done and I guess my buns of steel are starting to look the part...LOL "Did you eat today?" It's amazing how people monitor your food in take, whether at 280 or 150 pounds. I actually had someone tell me I need to "gain a few back". There are days I will have a piece of cheese extra during the day due to physical hunger...believe me...people notice and say something...unbelievable. It makes me phobic, self conscious, and panicky that I'm eating too much. I'm fretting over an extra 1 oz piece of string cheese only because it's pointed out to me. (I'm a freak!) My hubby's comments... "I'm proud of you", "look how far you have come," "things are lookin' good" (some of my parts are back in place due to the lower body lift...LOL) and of course his favorite... "I miss my girls"...enough said.. tee hee. He's my champion. Ok I'm done ranting. Has anyone else gone through this phase and besides telling a person to mind their own P's & Q's how did you handle it? I'm sure majority is because people care and are concerned but still.... As an FYI I've been at my job a little over a year and was losing a tremendous amount of weight during last year from the WLS. Everyone at work was concerned as to why I was dropping weight and thought I was bulimic/anorexic & a few times I threw up in the ladies room (Fun is) so I had to come clean with what was going on so they would STOP questioning me. SO now I have the other end of the spectrum to deal with...what a cycle! Thanks gang, Mickey

Hey there Mickey, Well my dear I know where that is coming from, I deal with ignoramises like that all day at my job too. People can be so smart but yet so stupid too. I dont even listen to the comments anymore. I am so tired of phoney people. They never cared when I was obese so why should they care now that I am losing. I am so proud of you my dear your doing great. So glad your surgery went well and your feeling great and getting great results too. Sounds like you have a hubby just like mine. We are so lucky arent we!!!!! My guys is so awesome about all my success and all my failures he is right there to pick me back up and set me straight. I am so grateful to him and thank god every day for him. As for coworkers and people like that, they can go jump of the highest mountain as far as I am concerned. I only have a few very dear friends and family and those opinions are the only onces I take to heart, the heck with all the rest. Well you take care sweetie, and keep up the good work. You need to put a photo on the boards now so we can see you sweetie. Hugs KimC

Hello Miss Kimmie! We are lucky & blessed to have such supportive spouses aren't we?? I couldn't have done it with out him! He's been every step of the way with me. I believe majority of the people who say comments to me mean well, BUT it just sets off "old inner workings" in me with my eating habits that I really need to keep in check & focus on. I don't want to fall back or get obsessive about what I put into my mouth like I was in my "former life". UGH... I'm very thankful I can vent on this support page and just about everyone on the boards understands where I'm coming from and has gone through simular situations and can share their experiences and suggestions. It's a great life line. Hugs to you Miss Kimmie... I really like your updated photo. Unfortunately I don't have the technology to get my mug posted on the boards..... Mickey

Hi mickey, hey its good to hear from you,,how are you??? I get stupid comments too,most of them I just laugh at..Tonight I went to a bingo that I used to frequent,all I heard was dont lose anymore your face is getting too thin,,lol,,if they only knew..Thin my a*^ I can finally feel my neck bone...Have a good one and keep in touch...Cyndee

Hey neighbor! I'm doing well & my recovery is getting there. I'm very swollen and I got discouraged when I tried on some jeans that were loose before my surgery...they're tight and some pairs I can't button right now... boo hoo... I know it's from the PS and I just need to have some patience.... Aren't neck bones a miracle...LOL....When ever I look in the mirror and my collar bones are showing I have to admire them... new friends that I'm meeting for the first time! Same with my rib cage... tee hee. You look great... I enjoyed looking at the halloween pictures everyone looked like they had a ball! Next Year for sure! Mickey