The Beach, Part 2

OK... the serious stuff first. First of all, no one is perfect (excepting me maybe). Darn good, sure. Perfect.... never ( please note previous possible exception) Too many shallow people out there. No one falls in love with a body. In heat, maybe. Love.... no. Everyone sees something different first. Eyes, hair, assorted body parts ( yes... feet)..but that is not what makes a person what they are. Once you get past the swelling, it is the connection with the person that makes the difference. Everyone has to give a little to get a little. As far as those individuals go who are soooooooooooooooooooo concerned about how they look, you will most likely find them more unhappy with themselves than any of us. We have been forgiving ourselves for *whatever* for years. A slight blemish, muscle that does not match or any MINOR issue becomes a major issue for them. Get a life people. There is more to life than a freckle that not in the perfect location. Old joke............. Beauty is skin deep, but ugly runs all the way to the bone. It's true. When you are "ugly" with yourself, it hurts all the way to the center of your being. So...................... did you wear a pink bathing suit???? MIGHT be at group tonight. If Joanne is still visiting upstairs. Peter

Unless you are referring to a different group, the Middlesex meetings including post-op are now on Mondays. Dave

Can you tell how well I'm functioning! She's be out of the Middlesex Hilton tomorrow. Dr A says she can go home. Peter

Perfectly said Dorota and I couldn't agree more!! I always look for the inner beauty of a person. Couldn't care less what they look like on the outside!! So I join you in toasting all my "beautiful" friends!! XXXOOO Kim K.

Hey Dorota, YOUR AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you so much for posting this, it really made me proud to be a part of this wonderful group of people here on the OH Boards. You are such a sweet and kind person and your post was inspirational. Thanks so much, and a very Happy 4th to you and your family too Hugs KimC

I think that you all have missed or missinterpretted what I was trying to say. I was doing some self analysis on myself and realized that I didn't like the person that I had become. I feel really hurt that you have all missinterpretted what I said. I was not saying that I was "perfect" or wanted to be perfect. I wasn't judging the people I was looking at on the beach. I was just realizing what a miserable life I had been leading and how judgemental I had been about people and that I was looking forward to changing those things about myself. I hope that this clears up the misconfusion for those of you who misinterrpretted me. Jen

Jen, honey, I am not misinterpretting what you said...I think I understand,,I was just trying to put my own view down on my post...That is why I didnt make it a reply to yours....I dont think that you were trying to say you were perfect,,,,not by any means,,,When going through this journey, all kinds of thoughts go through our minds, and we have earned the right to all of them.......Your post was very thought provoking, and not at all in a bad way, at least not for me...I myself have found that I have to change the way I look at things, look at life,,,this journey will do that to you..... I am thankfull for your beach post, because it made me think ..... Please don't be hurt, we are all in the same boat here.....sorry if I stepped on your toes with my post...didnt mean to... Dorota

Hi Jen, Sorry you took some of our comments as a judgement on your thoughts. Thats not what this board is about. Like to think we are here to share our "Journey's" with each other so we can see how each of us deal with different feelings as well as situations. We are here to support each other and hopefully help each other move forward. Take care and please don't be hurt. We have all faced enough of that in our lives and the last thing we want to do is add to it here. Julio