Husband doesn't support surgery...

I am almost finished with my 12-week pre-op classes...and my husband STILL doesn't support this surgery. I know he has a lot of fears...and I can understand that, but, I need his full-support on this. Has anyone else gone through this?! We argue all the time...and that isn't helping the situation at all. Any help would be appreciated... Thanks!

Mary Welcome to the site and the board. I wish you all the luck with your husband. I know that men can be bull headed sometime jsut like women can as well. If there is anything that I can help with please feel free to email me any time. [email protected] Much Love and support!1 Kris

Mary-- Has your husband attended any support group meetings? I know when my husband and I went there were a lot of spouses there, and a few who were apprehensive about the surgery and didn't think their wife needed it, maybe that would help. When I started thinking about this and my husband and I attended Dr. Snyder's lecture it really relieved a lot of his fears. If you like, you can have your husband e-mail me at home ([email protected]) and we can see if we can get them both together. Since I have had the surgery, and he has been through the good and the bad, maybe he can answer some of his questions. Just a thought. Carla

Hey Mary, this is Paul from the Kaiser class! Glad to see you on here. You may want to copy your message and put it on the main message board, too. There is more traffic on that board and maybe you'll get more responses. Hang in there and know that you always have us classmates! You can reach out to any of us, because in the last 11 weeks we have all grown to love you and your drawl! You're a kick! We'll do anything we can to help you through this. Take care and don't give up hope...he'll see you're worth it! Paul

Mary, So sorry to hear about your lack of support for surgery from your hubby! Mine is supportive - kinda... but never would EVER go to a meeting with me. Even went so far as to refer to the people at the support group as "a bunch of fat whiney women" (He paid for THAT remark!!) Just know that we are all here for you, and remember that you are doing this to SAVE YOUR LIFE. Hang in there and fight the good fight! We are behind you 100%!!! Susan 1 month post-op -35 lbs!

We all fear change--probably your husband does too-- You might be asking too much from him, just do what you need to do and don't worry. He'll fall into line or he won't, and there is not a thing you can do about it. If he wants to stay married, he'll learn to accept it. Good luck on your weight loss journey. Eileen

I know how you feel my husand is the same way.It would be nice to have your spouse support.Don't worry you have our support here i wish you the best and my prayers are with you...........

Hi,Mary it's stephanie from florida I Submitted all of my paper work to the insurance company on 07/09/04 waiting for a answer

Mary, I am one of your classmates and you know I will help you any way I can with support. I will send my phone number to you when we get all the email addresses sent to us so you can call me if you need a shoulder. Hang in there sounds like he may be coming around. (you know men, it takes them a little longer to figure things out)