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My name is Kori Phillips . I am a 27 year old female I scheduled my surgery yesterday with Dr Michael Snyder. june 30 04 is the big day. I am very nervous and excited. I was told to come here for support. I am at 304 lbs now 5'10" bmi 43 and would like to get down to 150 lbs . Does anyone else with children have guilt and anxiety about the whole process??

Hi Kori! Welcome. My name is Jonna and I live in Fort Collins, CO. I am 33yrs old and I have 2 daughters. One is 10 and the other is almost 5. I thought that this was going to be a cut and dried process. I thought that this was exactly what would work. I haven't had a consultation yet, but I am already having doubts and worries that I won't be able to have the surgery, due to insurance politics. I also feel guilty about how did I let myself get to this point. This site is a wonderful educational tool. If you have any questions, I am sure someone will respond. Good Luck to you and your journey. Jonna

Welcome to the board, my name is Kris and I live in Arvada. I have a 4 year old step son and he is part of the reason I am doing this. I have no energy to play with him on the floor at the park or anywhere, the other reason is because I am ready to be happy and HEALTHY!!! I was very nervous the first time I heard about this and started think wow I could die from this, but I have a higher chance of dieing jsut by driving my durango to the store tonight. I have had my consultation and am working on getting everything else done, I have my psych evaluation tomorrow and my nutrition class on the 6th. I am excited to finally do something just for me. I am one of those people who put everyone before me and this time I said nope I come first now, and trust me I have been put down every guilt road there is by my family and others in my life, you jsut have to trust in your surgeon and in God. We have a support group that will meet on 6/20 if you would like to come. Just email me or look on here for other posts. I think you will do just wonderfully!! Much Love, Kris

Hi, Kori. Happy to meet you. I don't have any kids (due to obesity related infertility), so I can't imagine what you must be going through. Just wanted to let you know that I think it's great that your are taking charge of the situation and are on the road to changing your life, both for your and your kid(s). Hang in there. Ron

Hi Korianne, I know what you are going through, the only thing that made me hesitate about having wls was the thought that my 4 children might be left motherless. I was quite positive this would not happen, but as a mother it is always our worst fear, one we cant just shrug off. This is your choice, no one can tell you not to worry, it is just part of who you are and the love you have for your children. With that said, you have to look at it from a pros v cons way. Will your life be better after surgery? Will your children's lives improve after? Will you be a better mom? What will happen if you do not have surgery? If the good out ways the bad, then you definetly can think positive. And a person that is a positive thinker always does better. For me, my life has gotten better and as a result so has my childrens. We play more, I wrestle with them, ride bikes and do jumps on them with my son. Even have fallen and laughed about it. We go on walks and talk a lot. This makes my oldest daughter who tends to feel left out of things at times feel like it is just me and her in the world. Her entire attitude has improved. So, try to stay positive, look to the future, trust in your surgeon and his care. I hope this has helped instead of confusing you more. Please feel free to contact me if you need to talk. Theresa OpenRNY 7/15/03 235/145/140?135

Welcome Kori!! Glad you found us! Hang in there and start hpping through the hoops, for your insurance Co. Keep us posted as to how you're coming along the process!

Hi Kori! I don't have children so I cant answer your question, but I did want to welcome you to the group. Glad you're here Kori! Michelle

Kori, I do have a 3yo boy and a 1yo girl...and yes...that was the only thing that made me nervous. I even wrote an entry on my journal in case something happened to me. But I figured this surgery was as much for them as it was for me. It will improve their lives too...and my surgery was performed by my cousin, who told me if you don't have any complications from obesity to begin with your risk of having problems is veeeery close to zero. That helped me relax... Welcome aboard! Paola