How do you deal with grief, with stress, with life?

Is there anyone out there who has gained some of their weight back?  I plateaued at about 6 months out from surgery.  My doctor said I plateaued really early.  I've since gained back 25 pounds.
 
I lost my mother in September and am apparently not dealing with the grief very well. I'd lost my baby brother 2 years before that and thought that I was prepared for Mom, but it's been so hard.

I know in my mind that I shouldn't do this or do that, and can't seem to stop myself.  I am hungry all the time.   My body doesn't seem to realize that I even had the surgery.  I am getting therapy, but I'd like to know if there is anyone else like me out there, that plateaued early or seems to be able to eat anything.  The WLS is a tool, I know, but it doesn't seem to be a working tool for me.  If I could lose the weight myself, I never would have had the surgery.

Thanks,
Cindy