OMG Are my friends and relatives really serious????

 I just have to say.... I have told my friends and relatives that I am getting the RNY gastric Bypass.... OMG!!!     First of all... I am paying for it myself... No Insurance... Please keep that in mind...  Everyone I talked to today said stuff like this: 1) You know... You are still going to have to exercise and watch what you eat and blah blah blah... 2) You really should have gone with the lap band... blah blah blah... Why would they think that I haven't done my homework???? I have been thinking about this surgery for frickin ever!!!   They can't be serious.... OMG!!!!!!!  Anyhow, I just had to vent. I can't believe what morons I hang with lol

I can some what relate. I did go with Lapband and had my surgery on Tuesday but waited to tell most people until the day before my surgery. My grandma told me "why do you think this is going to be any different? You can't even stick to Weigh****chers." I think people who haven't struggled with their weight don't really understand! That's why you have all of us here on this site.

It's a good thing I do have you all here lol, I might go nuckin futz. Thanks bunches for the reply 'Chelle.

Honestly, you need to just not even worry about what they say. My family really didn't have too much to say about my decision to have the surgery.  I was in Alabama, they are in Texas. I have been sick since before Thanksgiving, the Dr.'s are still not sure what is wrong, my sister has now told me that I didn't NEED the surgery I just wanted it. I didn't say a word, dead silence on the phone. We then changed the subject & have not/will not discuss it again.  The decision is YOURS & yours alone. I understand our families are worried about us & the fear of the unknown brings out a not so pretty side of them. Love them for being your family & find support elsewhere. It is not worth stressing over. It is not worth being hurt over, because I know it hurt you. Hold your head high & forge forward! Do what YOU gotta do! Good luck & hang in there, Bonnie

Dear Bonnie, Thank you for your understanding. Everyone is coming around to my way of thinking... Thank God!! LOL.  I love it when people see the logic I'm tryin to put out there, cause sometimes I'm the most irrational person... Anyhow, I've got kids to get ready for the day (Not my own though)(Thank God again) lol Hugs & Thanks

On April 11, 2008 at 7:59 PM Pacific Time, frankielarkey wrote:  I just have to say.... I have told my friends and relatives that I am getting the RNY gastric Bypass.... OMG!!!     First of all... I am paying for it myself... No Insurance... Please keep that in mind...  Everyone I talked to today said stuff like this: 1) You know... You are still going to have to exercise and watch what you eat and blah blah blah... 2) You really should have gone with the lap band... blah blah blah... Why would they think that I haven't done my homework???? I have been thinking about this surgery for frickin ever!!!   They can't be serious.... OMG!!!!!!!  Anyhow, I just had to vent. I can't believe what morons I hang with lol ============== UGH - THIS BOARD NEEDS TO BE UPGRADED TO PHPBB!!!!!!! Anyhow....I said.... Hi everyone: You think that's bad, that's NOTHING to what one of my younger brothers (Who BTW is a certified trainer) told me last Christmas. He went on this diatribe that EVEN IF I had the lap band, I would STILL have to eat properly, excercise, etc. (Like I didn't already figure this out? *DOH!*) He also went into things ranging from self-esteem to my love life (Or in the case of the latter, lack thereof), blah....blah....blah. He even suggested that I just go on a pureed diet for SIX MONTHS.  You see, I had made the mistake of doing on that diet pre-op and almost didn't have the surgery AT ALL.  In fact, he even went so far as to call it a "blessing" and that it was a twist of fate that I didn't go through with the surgery as if I was somehow saved from making the worst mistake of my life or something. After it was finished, I told him that while I respected his opinion (And still love him even though I disagree with his opinion, which he is constitutionally entitled to have), I was nevertheless going through with the surgery. This was on Christmas Day at my mom's apartment with her present. She thought we were fighting. If THAT was a fight, it was pretty one-sided as although my certified trainer/loving brother did all the talking, I had the final say so. But it even gets EVEN BETTER!!! In the days leading up to the surgery the second time around, I sent him a text message asking if he was gonna be able to take me to the hospital or not. Guess what happened.... HE NEVER GOT THE MESSAGE (Or so he claimed). And when I sent another text message from the hospital room before checking out (Because you just can't use the RF side of a cell phone inside a hospital without adversely affecting any equipment in the room) indicating that I had the surgery and was checking out of the hospital, guess what my loving, caring brother did... HE CALLED MOM & HOLLERED AT HER BECAUDE **HE** WAS NOT NOTIFIED. She told him to call me and leave her out of it. I wasn't too happy that he never bothered to AT LEAST reply to my text message indicating he didn't know about the surgery either and *****ed at her for not telling him. I assumed he got my text message but couldn't do anything to help out on the big day but just simply didn't bother to actually respond to my text message. I could've handled that Anyhow....Those are my OMG!!! stories. Cheers :D .

Good Lord Pat, I don't know what I'd have done with a brother like that.... I can think of a few things though, being from Wyoming and having lots of wide open space here... I'd have taken him out for a drive in the hills, and drop him off and let him walk home and think about what he said... I'm mean that way. Course, not that either of my brothers wouldn't love that lol. Thanks for the OMG!!! Story hun. Makes mine seem pretty minor. *wink*

I KNOW!!!  When I tell someone, this response makes me want to strangle them "YOU KNOW, you are going to have to eat less and exercise"   REALLY, YOU THINK?????? As if I don't understand the gravity of what I'm doing!  If I was good at dieting, I wouldn't be fat.  I probably know more about food, dieting, nutrition, etc, then any tiny person.  It makes me crazy!

That, and I am totally self pay. I'm gettin my moneys worth lol. I paid $150 for the required nutritionist meeting before surgery, and she was worth every penny. I really got lucky when I picked the Doc I picked. I had to travel from Wyoming to Colorado, but Dr. Chae and his team were well worth it. My doc works with a great hospital and also requires that you see the nutritionist he works with. The nutritionist was AWESOME!! Just as awesome as my doc. Love em both. As for my family, I think they are laying in wait to see what happens lol. Family can be very judgemental... I can't wait to see the looks on their faces in August when we have our family reunion. I already feel a hundred times better. I have energy I never thought I'd have. It's weird lol. Thanks for the reply.

I can definitely relate.  I should first say that the 2 most important people who's opinions I care about are my DH & my mom, and they are both VERY supportive.  But outside of them, I've pretty much stopped talking to people about it at all.  I know there are a few friends and family members who are on my side about it.  But I just never know how people will react.  Many have surprised me by trying to talk me out of it, chastising me for the idea, and (most often) telling me some horror story about somebody they know who knows somebody who knows somebody who had "some type of wls" and practically died.  Of course they never know what kind of surgery or what the complication was or who the surgeon was or ANYTHING else about it.  And for all they know this could have happened 15 yrs ago!  I get really sick of people telling me horror stories w/o any of the facts.  So I really have just stopped trying to talk anyone into my way of thinking, and am just grateful that I have a good surgeon in my hometown, that I'm getting closer and closer to my date every day, and that I have the people I care about the most behind me.  Other than that, I say screw um!!   *Angel