How to tell Mom

Ok I am getting all my labs done and my Dr appointment on thursday to talk about what I need to do to get approval from Tricare and now I feel I need to tell my mom. How do you do this? She is a great person and I am scared to tell her. I tell her every thing. But I am having a hard time with this. Do I do it like you would a band aid or do I bring it up slowly? HELP! I am not looking for her approval, I am all she has and I just do not want to scare her. Any advice would be great! thanks Anna

Hey Anna, Just be honest. Tell her that this is something that you NEED to do for yourself and that you've made this decision after serious soul-searching. I found that the one thing my family had was QUESTIONS - a lot of them. So I brought reading materials for everyone to look at. Good Luck! Vanessa

Hi Anna, I agree with what Vanessa said. Just be honest with her. My mom is a dietician...so it wasn't easy for me to tell her either because well, she didn't really believe in having surgery to take care of obesity. I took her with me to the doctor's seminar and also I've had her watch several shows with me on TLC so that she can see for herself what its' all about. I wouldn't suggest doing this slowly, I would just tell her that this is what you feel is best for you and it's necessary for you to live a happy and healthy life. Good luck! Maria

hi anna i feel that vanessa is right! you should tell your mother.you have the decision to do this now get them involved there are things she needs to know and would like to know i know sometimes that these type of situations can be difficult but you say your mom is a good person so im sure she will be understsnding.there is no good or bad way to tell anyone anything because them as an individual have there own feelings so trust your mother and tell her and make sure you have all the information so that you can explain it to her.what is your doing and why.it will be fine.good luck. chantelle

Hey Anna, I had the same problem, and I finally just did it. I explained all of my reasons for seeking this tool and then left the floor open to her to ask questions and give feedback. One important thing that a friend told me (he had his WLS 3 years ago) is that remember any comments that seem negative are simply because our friends and family LOVE us and are concerned for us, not necessarily that they don't want to support us. karen_b

Ok I have told her and she said that if she had the money she would be there too. So thank you all so much for your advice. It really helped. Thanks Anna