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I had my RNY in December 2007. My highest weight was 328, and on the day of surgery it was 319. I lost the weight fast and adjusted to the new diet and lifestyle easily (aside from the exercise, I didn't work out once). By January 2010 my weight reached its lowest at 162 --- a grand total loss of 166 pounds. But being a new mom, having my husband and I both out of work and living with my parents brought about a whole new world of stress and depression for me. I was able to maintain my weight for most of 2010 at around 180, but that didn't last the following year after my husband decided to join the Navy.
The experiences of his boot camp, A-School, and first deployment proved to be just too much for me emotionally. I found myself alone in a 1 bedroom apartment with no car, no TV, no friends, no family and nothing to do for months. The stress, anxiety, and depression proved to be more than I could handle and I ended up being hospitalized twice in less than a year's time at a psychiatric hospital. My only comfort was food - and I ate.
As of this past Sunday I weighed 259 -- up almost 100 pounds from my lowest -- and I am miserable. Things have settled down for me emotionally, but the scars have remained from the past 2 years. I have completely isolated myself... aside from the socialization I receive from my husband and my daughter, I don't get out of the house -- at all -- and I have no friends within 2000 miles. Physically, aside from housework, I do nothing. I sit on the couch all day watching TV, always too tired and exhausted to do anything... including playing with my daughter. I'm back to hurting, having aches and pains, should I do too much of anything, having difficulty breathing when climbing the steps to our apartment, my heart pounding by the time I walk out to the mailbox and back.
Diet wise, I can eat anything now that I did pre-surgery... except in smaller quantities. My biggest problem is that it feels like the food passes through my stomach quickly, and within 30 minutes after a meal I feel like I am starving again. I'm never full, never satisfied... so I am always grazing, looking to make that hunger go away.
I'm at a loss as what to do. What should I be eating? How often? And how much? When it comes to exercise what should I do? What should be my goals?.....and all in all... how can I be happy again?
I'm stuck --- and confused.
Someone please help.

I'm selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you don't deserve my best.
-Marilyn Monroe
Hope to see you next time. Linda
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I remember when the California Page was FULL of good times and activities!!!
Well a few of us on the VSG forum are putting together a Halloween party and wanted to invite EVERYONE to join in!!!
You've heard the rumors so now the question is "Do YOU wanna be LEFT out in the COLD while the cool kids are off PARTYING?" Well it's all up to YOU!!!
I am a FB head and I know many of you are as well so I thought having a group would be "easier" to communicate and say YES or NO.
SOOOOOO here's what I KNOW
What: So Cal Halloween BASH (yeah I have a FLARE)
When: Saturday November 3, 2012
Where: Orange County (Anaheim area)
Time: 5pm until BUST (time is negotiable)
Who: Adults ONLY 21+
My name is Gina and I was wondering if you still have all your size 12clothes that you are looking to sell. I just had my surgery in 7/03/12 and am now down to a size 12 from a size 18/20. I too am havng the same probem needing o sell my bigger sizes to make money for smaller sizes. I would love to see what you have for sale. I live in Mission Viejo and getting ready to start a new job Oct 1st. Please let meknow if you are still selling them.
Thank you,
Gina Taylor
949-322-7649
Also, do yu go to a support group in Orange County? I am looking for a new one since there is guys at the one I go to that really interferes with everything that is said, and most comments he mades are negative. So I am looking for a different one to attend. Please let me know.
Thank you and I look forward to hearing from you.
Have a great day.
I have a lot of nice size 12 work clothes. Some are 12 petite - but some are just 12. You are welcome to come and look at what I have this weekend - I'll text you :)
As for group, I go to the UCI support group, it meets once a month. I have only been once, but it does meet this coming Tuesday. I can't give a real assessment of the group after only one meeting. I think I rubbed some of the people the wrong way :(. Something.
Anyhow - there are a bunch of us getting together from OH. We are having a Halloween party! Here's the info on the group we made, feel free to join!
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/socalhallo2012/
I will text you later today about the clothes.
~Angi
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Not on FB but still wanna be in the know?? Then join our OH group!!!
http://www.obesityhelp.com/group/socalhallo2012/discussion/
You've heard the rumors so now the question is "Do YOU wanna be LEFT out in the COLD while the cool kids are off PARTYING?" Well it's all up to YOU!!!
I am a FB head and I know many of you are as well so I thought having a group would be "easier" to communicate and say YES or NO.
SOOOOOO here's what I KNOW
What: So Cal Halloween BASH (yeah I have a FLARE)
When: Saturday November 3, 2012
Where: Orange County (Anaheim area)
Time: 5pm until BUST (time is negotiable)
Who: Adults ONLY 21+
I'd expect you to listen closely and take some notes. Hopefully there will be handouts, but I'd highly recommend you take notes. You need to be made aware of any items YOU are required to initiate or complete before you have surgery. It's a good policy to learn about the post op process and begin limiting you food choices, food portions, drinking lots of water, doing some exercise, etc. It's very difficult for people to suddenly stop all poor food choices or eating habits all of a sudden right after surgery. If you start learning to do "baby steps" prior to surgery, your post op experience is much easier to handle. Give up sodas one week, give up desserts another, stop eating after dinner, drink 64 oz of water daily, etc. If you have mobility issues, find a gym or YWCA or YMCA to use for warm water aerobics--you weigh very little in pool. You may have to schedule these water aerobic "classes" many weeks in advance, as they are popular. Go to support meetings to learn about what really happens to people the first few weeks post op. You'll likely learn a lot of things you won't hear in any classes with Kaiser. View many forums like OH to learn how others deal with post op issues. Good luck. Listen closely, and get ready to enjoy your new life. DAVE
Dave Chambers, 6'3" tall, 365 before RNY, 185 low, 200 currently. My profile page: product reviews, tips for your journey, hi protein snacks, hi potency delicious green tea, and personal web site.