Failed lapband

 My lapband was removed in June due to slippage.  My surgeon won't do another surgery for about one year due to esophageal inflammation.  I will be seeing him at the end of December.  I am a health care professional, but more importantly, I am an overwhelmed and grieving female.  I am wanting to find someone in SoCal that has had a similar fate and wants to communicate.  People are kind and sympathetic but don't understand the frustrations.  I am much hungrier now and trying desperately not to gain too much weight.  I just had to go up one pant size and that made me very angry and sad.  If anyone else has had a similar experience, please write to [email protected].  Thank you.

Joyce

There is a group on OH called Failed Lapbands. Do a search and you should find plenty of people in your shoes and I'm sure some are from SoCal.

Ignore this message....I am just screwing with the mods.

By their own butt-hurt personal feelings standards, from what I can see.

I posted to Sarah recently - AS A PERSON, NOT AS A MOD - in which I disagreed with her about something she said that was snarky to DSers, in a way that did NOT violate TOS - which she did NOT bother to respond to directly, although she made excuses for her attitude in a response to someone else.  http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/DS/4467729/Stages-of-WLS/  I wonder if she got butt-hurt by what I said, and that may be coloring the heavy-handed moderation I am receiving now.  Frankly, although she has portrayed herself as someone who deserves special treatment because of her medical issues, I have long since tired of her thinking it gives her dispensation for some of the crap she posts - but you'd think I tipped over a cripple's wheelchair by not giving her a pass or by disagreeing with her. 

I sense a growing Amy-vibe from her.  Including the aspect that seems to reflect DS-envy - the DS would clearly have been better for both of them, statistically, and both of them seem to take pro-DS/anti-RNY stuff personally.  Which is fine with me - I don't give a rat's patoot what she thinks of me personally - but I think it is affecting her "professional" judgment in her role as a moderator.

I have also disagreed with Kathy S personally, though I don't recall if there has been a recent incident.

Barbara C is beyond annoying with her cross-posting every little thing that she thinks gives her a reason to put her face and "title" on every page on OH.  Most of the time when she posts that drivel on the DS forum, it is UTTERLY irrelevant to any of us - and I often say so.

I have also told Eric Klein - when he took a brief spin at posting publicly and ostensibly as a MEMBER - that I would NOT help him when he "invited" me to - for free - write an article for his OH rag that he didn't have time to write.  And I criticized his incomprehensible and factually inane postings here: http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/amos/4431266/Lap-Banders-W rite-a-Letter-to-Washington/#36630036  I wonder if he is butt-hurt about that?  I kinda doubt it - I don't get the sense that he has feelings that can get hurt, other than being frustrated that his attempt to interact with me didn't go his way - and OH is just his cash cow.

So, overall, it appears to me that the mods can't separate their feelings about my criticizing them as MEMBERS with their roles as moderators, and are using that as an excuse to apply different standards to my posts, and moderating them - or putting ME on moderation.  That's how it appears to me.  In my opinion, if they can't maintain professional impartiality as moderators, they should resign.  Am I allowed to have an opinion about this?

Ugh, I do know some friends who had that happen. They had to wait and get a revision to RNY or sleeve.
I am sure it's painful waiting with out your "tool"
know this, there are others and you will find them on OH.
look up Michelle F. ( new jersey), Trish)the_dish

Joyce, first I would recommend that you edit your post to remove your email address. It is never a good idea to publish this information in a public forum. Please, for your security, edit asap.
    Next, and maybe you already know this, the failure rate for lap band is very, very high. While it's low risk on the day of surgery, it has the highest reoperation rate of any wls presently being done. Not good, and I'm sorry you have become part of the statistics. 
    Take this "opportunity" to research ALL your available options. We have many failed lap band people revising to the DS, and you could come over to the DS forum and do a shout out to them for both information and lots of support. Things may be slow this week due to the holiday, but should pick up again next week. You can also get a lot of great info about the DS at dsfacts.com. It is less well known that gastric bypass, but has the best statistics of any wls for percentage excess weight loss, for maintaining that weight loss (so important) and for resolution of almost all comorbidities.
     Whatever you decide, do your research first. If you have any questions about the DS, feel free to pm me. I am over 5 years post-op with absolutely no regrets.

Larra

 Thank you for your wise advice.  I can't find my post to modify it.  Any ideas?  Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours.

Joyce

There is an "edit" button at the bottom of your post. Just hit that button and you can delete your email address. If you get an email with my response to your post (this should happen) you can find your original post at the topof the page.
      And Happy Thanksgiving to you as well!

Larra