New Year Blues...

So many people  call January 1st a "reset" button but in my 25 years of experience a new year doesn't seem to change much but the date. To me, it seems like any other day... full of disappointment. I have so many things to be happy for but right now all I seem to be focusing on is the things I don't... I wish I had a switch or a button I could just press or flip and be "normal"... everything that I used to do to make things "better" is gone... so what do I have left to comfort me... a computer screen with nothing behind it. I think I just need connection in my life someone to talk to and understand what I'm going through.

I don't need advice necessarily I just need someone to listen to me complain... someone that can be understanding with out judging...

Hello, I agree with you it is just another day but for me I just pray and hope that this year will be better then the last. If you need someone to listen I am all ears. No judging or advice. 

Sarah,

You have a choice in life.  You can look at the glass half full or half empty.  An obnoxiously cliche statement?  Yes.  But it's true.  I have much in my life that would destroy a weaker person.  But I choose to face each obstacle head on and figure out a way to make it better. I don't dwell on the negative nor do I throw all of my anguish on my friends shoulders.  I look at the positive things in my life and fill myself with the joy those things/people bring to me.

Depression is an insideous disease.  But it is a condition that can be addressed and worked on.  My advice, which you aren't looking for, is to address the condition and then work on the problems that are causing you such pain. You can always come here and find someone who will "listen to you complain" or you can find friends here or elsewhere that will do more then allow you to wallow in your pain.  

An unsolicited word of advice would be not to find people to listen to you complain, as eventually you will wear them out, but rather find people who will embrace a healthy lifestyle with you.  Those are the people who will become your friends and when life gets overwhelming as it sometimes does, they will be by your side for the good times and the bad times.  So don't look for a friends to listen to you complain, look for a friend to have some fun with.  That will be a much healthier relationship to nurture.

Stephanie

Earlier life issues and be a root cause of depression, then overeating, etc.  It's always been said at my support meetings THAT IF you have unresolved issues from your past, that you talk someone to get an understanding of how to cope.  Failure to learn how to deal with these old issues will lead to relavitively slow wt loss, further depression, self image issues, etc.  I'm not ashamed to admit that I benefited from talking to medical professionals many years before my RNY.  I had depression and self image issues long before I had my RNY.  Consultations and medications helped me deal with these issues.  Without this help, I know my post op life would have more difficult to deal with.  I still take meds for depression, anxiety, sleep meds to this day. DAVE