Scared

Thanks for your prayers.   I can't wait for the clam to kick in but I will keep everyone posted.

Oh my sweet girl.  You are going to be fine.  All the nervousness now is normal.  Just keep looking at your gorgeous babies and keep reminding yourself how much more of an active mom you are going to be to them.  You'd be hard pressed to be a better mom, but now when they try to run away from you, you'll be able to catch them.  LOL

Just remember, you have all of us here thinking of you.  As you close your eyes on that day, besides your babies in your heart, all of us here who know you and love you will be there right with you as well.

Come to coffee on the 2nd.  10AM, usual place.  Mike posted about it cause I've been so busy. Come and let us all give you big hugs and kisses.

Love you,
Steph

Hi Steph,
Thanks for the kind words and Yes, I plan on being there on Oct 2.  My girls will be joining me this time.  One of them has a tennis game at 8am and them we will head to the spot.  I can't wait to see everyone and plan the apple picking.

Love
Ann

 Hi Ann,

Your feelings are very normal.  Of course things are very different for everyone.

For me, having had several surgeries prior to my RNY I was head high, chin up, and positive from day 1 that I called to get started with the process.  I never let anyone tell me anything negative.  I never listened to any negative comments and if anyone was negative or against what I was doing, I blocked them from my life and mind.  Eventually, some come to understand and as for forgiveness.  Others are still not part of my life.  Hubby had to sign some paperwork and that is when he told me he was against it.  Only because of prior complications I have had with surgery.  I did not speak to him for 2 days, and he caught hell from the kids.  Now he is my biggest support.

Two days before my surgery we attended church.  Kids do not attend but they did that day.  Hubby and I go to church ever other weekend and this day was not a scheduled church day so the family questioned me.  I went to pray and make my peace with God and ask for his guidance and blessings on the day of and after my surgery.  I never was scared, nervous or otherwise.  I just kept positive thoughts.  My surgeon Dr. Ali is fabulous with the best bedside manner.  Outside of surgery he is the same as well.  

On the day of my surgery as hubby and I were sitting in the waiting room to be called I was as calm as could be.  When my name was called, my eyes welled up and that is when it hit me that I was actually going to go through with this.  I kissed my hubby and headed to the room to be prepped.  Once that was all done, hubby, daughter, son & girlfriend were allowed to come in where I was and visit with me.  We laughed, giggled and enjoyed each others company for 1/2 hour.  When I awoke from recovery, I was already in my room and my family was there to greet me.  Within 2 hours I was up walking the halls.  3 days in the hospital, came home and went for 2 walks that day (small but walked regardless), I even cooked dinner for my family.  

So the moral to my long reply is:  Keep you head and chin up girl.  Stay positive, believe in the power of prayer.  Before you know it, your kids will be riding their bikes along side of you while you are walking.  They may even want to race you - LOL

Wishing you the best of luck with your surgery, hugs and prayers are headed your way.  Keep us posted and can't wait for you to join us on the losers bench.

HUGS!!!

I felt the same way, I was so worried if something happened to me what would happen to my kids?  For me, I realized that at any moment in time I could be in a bad car accident with a bad result.... so made a plan for "what happens if".  I wrote it out & once I did that, I felt so much better and less stressed!  I spent weeks not sleeping because I was so worried.  That's what I did to deal with being so scared.    Everything worked out just fine (you have to trust your doctor 100%)...  I'd do it all over again in a heartbeat.

~janie