MsBlues Here - My mom is gone

Hi all,

I haven't been on the forum for awhile. The last few weeks have been tough. My mom passed away at home on Tuesday, June 29.  Her cancer finally took her after a 4.5 year battle against it. I will miss her so so so much. Losing a parent is not just sad, but surreal.  My mom was a huge part of my life, for good and bad, and that part of just gone. It's a strange off-putting feeling.

I've allowed myself some comfort foods, but I haven't gained weight or lost weight since my mom had been diagnosed as terminal. That was my goal. I didn't want to abuse food to get me through and it looks like I accomplished that goal.

Thanks for the support many of you have shown me during this my mom's journey.  I hope to see you at the Nor-Cal July gathering.

MsBlues

My thoughts and prayers are with you MsBlues.

I'm so sorry to hear this news, it's really sad.  What a horrible struggle cancer is and i know you had ups and downs like a roller coaster of emotions with it.  I lost my Dad suddenly 6.5 years ago and I still can feel that feeling of wth? he is gone now.  It's not easy to deal with.  Hugs!

On the positive side, I am so happy you got to take that trip with her to Hawaii and that you have been able to spend quality time with her during this struggle even with heartache.   It is amazing that you have not gained weight through this, that is truly an accomplishment and I'm so proud of you!

Sending prayers to you and your family for strength and peace.

Big Hugs!

Jackie

Hi Jackie,

Thanks for your message. Losing a parent for the first time is difficult and strange as you know. Thanks for reminding me of the positive things that have happened. That trip to Hawaii was so great and I am proud of myself too for not using food for comfort. My mom would be proud of me for that as well.

Richelle

I'm so sorry to hear about you Mum. You will be in my thoughts and prayers, and sending big HUGS your way.

Dear Richelle; I know how difficult this is for you. I'm so glad you were able to be with your mother during these past few weeks.

Best wishes,

Richelle,

I am so sorry to hear you lost your Mom you have been on my mind and I knew you were going through some tough times in in the last few months. 

Please know you are in our thoughts and prayers and by all means, if Ron or I can help in ANY way, please don't hesitate to call.  Hugs, thoughts and prayers coming your way from both of us to both of you.

Barb and Ron

Hi MsBlues-I also lost my Mom in the same way after the same time of battleing cancer.  Infact, I had just become a member here when it happened just over 2 years ago.  Many said they could feel my pain because they had lost their moms also..I thought, no, you cannot understand.  But now, 2 years later, Yes..., I know we all do understand and know what you feel.  I can tell you that my OH family was a terrific blessing when, just 6 months after her passing and only weeks after my RNY, I fell into such deep despair that I didn't want to go on with life, much less follow my surgery protocol.  I had some wonderful notes and phone calls and still have wonderful messages thru e-mail and FB when I am feeling down.  At more than 2 years after my mom's passing and 18 months out of RNY, my tears are slower to come, my heart is full again, my memories are good and life is good.  God Bless you at this time and keep you strong, safe and intouch with all your friends and OH family.  You will do wonderful!!!
Best wishes..Kim in Fontana

Hi Kim,

Thanks for such a hearffelt message. It helps a lot hearing how other people have dealt with what feels like a mountain of grief. It's amazing how messages like yours and from so many FB and OH friends helps. My mom has left me a lot of great memories and your message is reminding me I'll have those for the rest of my life.

Richelle

I am very sorry for your loss.

Larra