L8ter H8ter! Do you know any?

I fell victim to a H8TER on this same board. She lives in Palm Springs. Many of us left only to rejoin on Facebook... those who know me, well, know me! L8ter H8ter! Only I lost 190lbs...

The following blog post was from Susan Marie's site...

L8ter H8ter!

Hater

1. A person who feels anger and/or jealousy for someone who has succeeded in something they have worked hard for, whether it's buying a new car or an Italian handbag, receiving a promotion, having business success, BEing happy, or losing one hundred thirty two pounds.

2. A being who speaks badly of and/or takes negative actions in attempt to create problems for a person who is successful.

3. Haters have a special link with one another and tend to fuel each others hate by hating in groups. They do seem to become happy from the escalation of hate for a person that arises in these groups.

It is difficult to hold back and not react when someone is attacking you, but remember that small people tear down other people and their ideas. It is more productive to ignore the hater, and instead focus on our own love and kindness. Marianne Williamson has written that there are really only two primary emotions in the universe, love and fear. So anytime you're feeling anxious, insecure, worried, angry or resentful, you've left love and entered fear.

It's more productive to leave the hater behind standing in their own pool of fear. Who has time for them?

Have a BEautiful Day! Live for the moment and the glory of today.

What a beautiful post.  Thank you for reminding us to not let the haters in this world affect how we all live our lives.  Those who think themselves better then everyone else are really very sad individuals.  When all one has in their life is to stir up trouble and speak badly of everyone around them, they are truly not worth our time or effort.

To those that now think some kind of drama has occurred here on the board, NO there has not been any. At least none that I'm aware of recently. Haters, however, are in all areas of our life and will sabotage our efforts to be better people if we allow them too.  So say no to the haters and live your lives to the fullest, be all you can be and remember to tell your loved ones everyday how important they are to you and how much they are loved by you.

Have a safe, wonderful day everyone.

Stephanie

I agree this is a wonderful post. Both you and Steph wrote such wisdom. I hope you will post this very so often just to remind us of this. Life is just too short to be around those types of people. Live, Laugh, Love indeed!

Well said and Amen!!!!  
Though it is sometimes sad to see those people leave from your life, you have to live your life for you and can't have their poison in your life. Move on and be happy!!!!

YOU my friend, have been one of the most successful stories of WLS. You look fabulous.  I hope that the hater has not been harassing you. Let me know if you need anything. 

The best revenge is continue being you.... :D 

I loved this post. That was one of the main reasons why I quit commenting on OH posts...Since I am almost 2 years out and at goal it seemed like no one wanted to hear about the successes I have had, only the problems associated with the process. I would always get "smacked in the face" and interrogated as if I was lying about what I was writing about my own personal journey. People werent happy unless someone was complaining about sliming or being stuck or eating too much. I started coming to the OH site 3 years ago for support and I feel that since I am at goal that support is not being met any longer by the ones who helped me along the way...Im new to the California OH site (moved here 2 months ago from Maryland) so none of this pertains to this particular forum. But I wanted to comment anyway because this post hit home. Thanks!

Welcome to CA, the IE and the CA Forum, Heather.  Hope you find everything in CA you are looking for.  Also hope you stick around and join in here.  We are, for the most part, a very encouraging and supportive group.  You'll find the occassional "hater" as Kim pointed out, but on a whole everyone here now is great.  So come back often and do please post of your successes.  The newbies and even us old timers love to hear about people doing and getting it right.

Stephanie

Thank you for the welcoming. I have been lurking for a little while now, still havent found a So Cal support group, if anyone knows of any around my area (within 20-30 min) let me know. Thanks again!!

here is info on a support group in your area

contact Steve Blair at 909-581-7270

support groups meets at

Rancho Specialty Hospital
10841 White Osk Ave.
Rancho Cucamonga 91730

2nd Monday and 4th Thursday of the month at 6:P30pm

hope you enjoy them

Kathy