My mom's cancer and bad news

Oh my dear, sweet girl.  My heart is aching for you.  I know, only too well, what you are feeling and trying to deal with. There are no words that any of us can give you to make it easier.  Just know that you are cared about and have a support network here to help you through this.  Reach out whenever you need to.  Just putting your feelings on "paper", so to speak, can ease some of the emotional upheavals you will be dealing with.  Don't be afraid to cry and scream and just yell as loud as you need to.  Tell your mom over and over how much you love her.  Be there for her to hold her hand and let her know she is not alone.

Everyday will bring new challenges for all of you.  Everyone here will be holding your hand to get you through these tough times.

Sending you many hugs,
Stephanie

I'm so so sorry to hear about your Mum. I will be keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers. If you need anything at all, just let me know. Sending big Hugs your way.

Hi all,

Thanks for the kind words and support. I know I am going through something a lot of other people have, but this is hard. Tomorrow we meet with her oncologist to get some ideas on the time she has left and what will happen as she declines. She seems at peace with passing away, but she has always been someone that HATES feeling and talking about any emotion that is uncomfortable in any way. In her world, feeling sad, angry, annoyed, and so on is a bad thing.

All I know is I need to feel my emotions and need to express them. If I don't, I am using food to deal with life and  I know I don't want to do that.

Thanks again!

MsBlues

So sorry to hear about your mother. My heart goes out to you and your family. I will keep you in my prayers

I am so sorry I know all to well what you are going thru.. There are no words to take that hurt away. You need to let your mom know how much you love her.  Be there to support her no matter how angry you are at her for ignoring the signs and symptoms that appreared. How many of us contributed it to being morbidly obese.  As you are going thru the grief of the diagnosis how is she feeling... She is the one facing her mortatlity... ...Will it hurt OMG how can I leave my kids how will they make it without me.. will they be ok.... Love your Mom. Enjoy what time is left.
My Heart is with you
Liz

Ms. B,  I am sorry to hear about your Mom.  I lost my Mom four months ago to breast cancer at age 60.  So, I understand there are no proper words to describe the pain, anger, hurt and other devistating emotions.  For me spending time with my Mom before her death was the best thing I could have done for both of us at the time.  I do not regret all the time I spent with her in the hospital and at the drs etc...  Know that being with your Mom for whatever time she has left is very important for both of you.  You and your family will be in my prayers. Hugs, Amy

Oh darlin I am so sorry to hear this and while you are going through something that many of us has does in no way diminish nor prepare you.  My mother died in December 2006.  It burns like it was yesterday.  Everyday I feel and miss her.

Feel, cry and scream and know it's OK and the only people who truly will understand are the ones who have experienced it too.  Blessings and prayers your way.

Ms Shell

Hugs to you!  There are really no good words of comfort that I can say except we are here for you.  Praying for you and your family for strength and a miracle at this time.

Jackie

My prayers are certainly with you and your mom and your family. Often it is difficult to convince others to take care of themselves and to convince them they are worth the effort of seeking advice and information on their own behalf, esp when they are used to taking care of everyone else.

Cherish what time you have and show your love and devotion whenever possible.

Hugs,

Linda